I Actually Mean What I Say

Say what you mean but don't say it mean. If someone disappoints you that is not necessarily a good reason to end the friendship unless their behaviour is dangerous, violent or criminal. It is more useful to say that you are disappointed and [i]say specifically what you are disappointed about[/i] leaving a way open for the friendship to grow and improve. If your friend chooses not to take that path with you then that is one of those things in life that we are powerless to change and we simply have to accept the loss of that friend. It is possible that the friend regrets disappointing you and is willing to make amends in which case you have saved a friendship simply by keeping an open mind about it. A very serious disagreement such as infidelity or a gambling problem in an intimate friendship will usually spell the end of the relationship which may in turn lead to other problems. But if you can accept that the behaviour redefines the friendship and shifts the boundaries of responsibility in the friendship something of the relationship may still remain and may still be necessary even though they have disappointed you.