For me, I had to come clean in accepting myself, period. Then I took the time to filter out all the baggage I was carrying from my past. I learned to own all that I am the good the bad the ugly and began a very difficult time letting go and forgiving myself... this took years. Believing in myself took the life out of me to accept but once I did,with forgiveness, I began to be more grateful and loving... and knowing that no matter what anyone says to me that really don't know me... they are just words - that can't hurt me because I know I am the only one that can do that... but I won't hurt myself any more. I will never travel down that dark tunnel again. Sure I get down, but it's so minimal and trivial. I'm not egotistical when I say I am an honest person. I just took the time to know everything about myself well...which I have intimidated others because I do care what happens to me and because of that I do care deeply of others - even when I call them out as liars or deceivers - hey, they're only doing that to themselves because I know who I am.... sorry for the lengthy reply. Peace.☮

No manual just realize it accomplishes nothing to be dishonest with oneself. It involves facing some hard truths sometimes but in order to grow we need to do this.

Give me truth, let me digest it and make decisions from there. Except that whole tiresome thing of " communication" and possibly.....gasp! conflict could result and not a lot of people are willing to venture into those parts these days.

Being honest with ourselves...very important. So, how do we accomplish this? Anyone have a step by step manual?

Thanks, love. and Thank you for a good for thought post. Cheers!😘

Beautiful Bemy. I hope the right person reads this and uses it.

I agree. I only want the truth. Thanks for sharing!

@ Naughtylass - yes a liar doesn't win that's for sure. They just lie to themselves. @Sunscape - Being honest to ourselves is the key and it takes a long time but well worth the risk... I wish I could write a manual, but not everyone would "get it." Thank you for sharing. Good post!

So Bemy and naughty- is there one sure way or something that you would say people could do in order to make sure they are being honest with themselves?

Well said. I could not agree more. Dishonesty kills the relationship because it kills the trust, little by little until one day you wake up and discover you have had enough. Of course that's when the liar always starts getting serious but it's too late.

I guess one more thing could be added. At the end of the day the liar does not win.

Absolutely agree...and boy , the truth has hurt on many occaisions but I am better for it.

I agree.At my age I have a very low tolerance for bullshit,lol.