Emilygrace1 · 26-30, FNew
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Emilygrace1 · 26-30, FNew
@Maddy08 both. Like for example, does he bring up the whole BBC thing? Sorry to be so blunt lol. Again no need to share if that’s too much.
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@Emilygrace1 no comments
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@Royricky09 I know they were being serious, or at least assumed.
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Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@Midlifemale to be honest, it’s more so that he initially had frustrations with my dad and tried to joke around about it. I can say more if that helps give context.
Emilygrace1 · 26-30, FNew
@Midlifemale why does the dad disapprove?
Midlifemale · 61-69, M
@Emilygrace1 I don't know know. Ask her. But his white daughter is living with her black boyfriend. What do you think ?
LeGrotesque · 46-50, F
I'm white and my ex is black. He would do the same. Any time we argued, he usually brought race into it in a negative way. I think racial inequalities have been ingrained in the black culture for so long (understandably), it's just a go-to in their minds any time something is going wrong. I'm not black, so I can't say the definite reason why some would bring race into an argument, but that's my speculation.
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@LeGrotesque that sucks, I’m really sorry to hear that. If it’s okay to ask, how would he bring it up? Like the topic and manner of it. I’m wondering if it’s similar to my situation
LeGrotesque · 46-50, F
@Maddy08 if he did something disrespectful toward me or hurt me in some way, I'd call him out on it, and instead of keeping the topic on the behavior, he'd inevitably bring race in. He'd try to say that I was wrong and that his behavior is just part of who he is as a black man. Or if he tried to steamroll me in what is supposed to be a joint decision, he'd say stuff like, "Yeah of course you want it all YOUR way- typical white btch", etc. We had some ugly fights but thankfully since we broke up, we get along well.
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@LeGrotesque oh wow, yeah that is very ugly. I’m glad you’re in good terms, but I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Thanks again for sharing. I know exactly what you mean though. My boyfriend doesn’t say really messed up things like that, but he will kind of justify the behavior stuff at times and simultaneously also allude to the racial differences in a sort of flexing way. If you get why I’m saying.
LamontCranston · M
How serious is the relationship? Is marriage a possibility?
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@LamontCranston yes it’s possible. We’ve been dating about a year and a half.
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@LamontCranston oh really? Thanks for being so open about it. I think it may be a more black/white thing with this exact situation to be honest, at least what I’ve heard
Ynotisay · M
My partner is a minority from another country and while neither of have brought up race between each other, because it's a non-issue, I do know she's sensitive about it around others. She'll say things sometimes about how someone acted in a racist way towards her that I don't see in any way. So I think there's sensitivity to it that might be more imagined than real at times. But I'm sure that's driven by cases of real racism. That can hit deep and color someone's thinking about "all."
I think it can become an issue though if someone is living in a world where "enemies" are always present. And some lean in to blaming those "enemies" for their own stuff. I'm not sure that's a strong character trait. Irrespective if it's around race, gender or any of the other things that people latch on to. It can be tricky. But it think it will need to be something you need get past.
I think it can become an issue though if someone is living in a world where "enemies" are always present. And some lean in to blaming those "enemies" for their own stuff. I'm not sure that's a strong character trait. Irrespective if it's around race, gender or any of the other things that people latch on to. It can be tricky. But it think it will need to be something you need get past.
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@Royricky09 I guess because of the connotation and me wondering if it’s unusual for some people to enjoy it or have a reason for it
@Maddy08 I don't think it's funny... That's my opinion
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@Royricky09 I get that. Part of me doesn’t either
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Midlifemale · 61-69, M
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@Midlifemale we do live together
Midlifemale · 61-69, M
@Maddy08 oooooooh !
Hmmmmm. Are you truly in-love with him, or can a big decision be made and move back home ?
Butvwait for one of his race comments and just look at him and tell him..you had enough of that
Hmmmmm. Are you truly in-love with him, or can a big decision be made and move back home ?
Butvwait for one of his race comments and just look at him and tell him..you had enough of that
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@Midlifemale I do love him, but I have had my doubts for sure. And yes I could if I needed to. I think it’s the risqué comments that I don’t know how to feel you know? Like more blunt
Emilygrace1 · 26-30, FNew
@ninalanyon I agree, but it sounds like she doesn’t fully understand the fetish element for him.
AthrillatheHunt · 56-60, M
Maddy08 · 26-30, FNew
@AthrillatheHunt that’s so true! Same for my family growing up. I wonder why that is.
Northwest · M
@AthrillatheHunt
Your family socialized with the "many" black households in your old neighborhood? Over dinner? and chatted about the "white people?"
In many black households “white people “ is discussed daily .
Your family socialized with the "many" black households in your old neighborhood? Over dinner? and chatted about the "white people?"
Theyitis · 36-40, M
No idea why he does that. Happy for you though.
