Has Anyone Ever Been in a Abusive Relationship?

I recently just got out of a abusive relationship with a British chick.

While this woman was an absolute sweetheart, she had alot of issues like Retroactive Jealousy among other things. These issues made her do things to me I shouldn't have ever forgiven, such as using my own weaknesses against me whenever we argued, always dangling past mistakes over my head even MONTHS after such things happened, and generally being emotionally manipulative. Always made it about her feelings and how she was always wronged, never took any sort of accountability for her own actions. Never let things go, and would ALWAYS believe in her assumptions/insinuations over my word even if she was wrong. Any time another woman was brought up, even just a former friend, she would EXPLODE. Before we broke up, she used my own trauma against me in ways I would REALLY rather not get into.

Yet I'm supposed to be OK with her talking about her ex so fondly and lovingly? I'm supposed to be okay with only talking on the phone once a week? I'm supposed to be okay with only receiving pictures from her during special occasions like christmas or my Birthday? Okay with video chatting on a once-a-month basis? Okay with being ghosted anytime I inherently said something that offended you? Nah, I said to myself I'm not doing it anymore. I have more value than this. In alot of ways I'm proud of myself for getting out of it. But I do sometimes think about her, I hope she someday sees that she isn't a victim. That she was just as responsible as I was for our relationship's downfall. Somehow I doubt she'll ever see it though.