JustNik · 51-55, F
@SW-User it does make the good times a challenge for me - I just need to practice keeping my focus on the moment and not how it’s making me feel I think.
JustNik · 51-55, F
@OldBrit that is enough for him and I need to cool my jets and respect that. lol I should be able to do that without bringing myself down. I do think it’s helped to lay it all out like this. Helps me see how self-centered I can be. It isn’t a shortcoming of him or our relationship that he doesn’t feel or need what I do at times like these.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
@JustNik
Below is a paragraph from one of the stories in the big book of alcoholics anonymous. I hope you don't mind me quoting it as what you said immediately brought it up for me. Particularly the last sentence.
Below is a paragraph from one of the stories in the big book of alcoholics anonymous. I hope you don't mind me quoting it as what you said immediately brought it up for me. Particularly the last sentence.
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life—unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.
