It's not in our hands to control what other person thinks and will do. But we can learn to manage how we are effected by it.
With your thought and emotion, with a little bit of practice, you can create a little distance from your physiological processes and your psychological processes.
Suppose you were on your way to the airport and you got stuck in a traffic jam. How much anxiety and struggle you would have! Then somehow, you got to the airport and got into the flight and took off. From up there, when you look down, how nice the traffic jam looks! This is simply because there is a little distance. It is still the same traffic jam but because there is a distance, suddenly there is nothing to it.
