SammyJo · 56-60, F
I went through a period, years ago in my 20's, where I was raped. That is enough, as you could imagine, to send one into a tailspin but I had the added drama of whether I would be HIV+ or not too.
Back in those days it took the best part of 3 months to get results and I was a basket case! Rarely showered. Rarely ate. Just chain smoked, did mountains of cocaine and drank vodka. Anything that could help.
Life was in limbo, literally, for those months.
Then, thankfully, a positive - as in I was negative - result and life could begin again. Perpetrators were caught and 'dealt with' and I could slowly rebuild my life.
Probably took twice as long again to get anywhere near where I was, but yes...two steps forward, one step back...in confidence.... everything. Eye contact? That was tough some days. Just saying hello to people was hard.....and then some days that was easy.
So unpredictable, but I managed to get to a better place, I think, than where I started.
SJD x
Back in those days it took the best part of 3 months to get results and I was a basket case! Rarely showered. Rarely ate. Just chain smoked, did mountains of cocaine and drank vodka. Anything that could help.
Life was in limbo, literally, for those months.
Then, thankfully, a positive - as in I was negative - result and life could begin again. Perpetrators were caught and 'dealt with' and I could slowly rebuild my life.
Probably took twice as long again to get anywhere near where I was, but yes...two steps forward, one step back...in confidence.... everything. Eye contact? That was tough some days. Just saying hello to people was hard.....and then some days that was easy.
So unpredictable, but I managed to get to a better place, I think, than where I started.
SJD x
I just went through a very tough and strange year that caused me many different types of emotional wounds and financial stress.
I am just now over the last month arriving on the other side of it.
Therapy, reading, and certain friendships here, have all combined to help me find my way through it.
I feel mostly whole and mostly better about almost all of it and I am now making choices and decisions that I hope bring me to a better place.
I, as you said, am moving forward.
I’m not sure we ever heal fully and we all carry the scars of our past with us forever in one form or another.
I am just now over the last month arriving on the other side of it.
Therapy, reading, and certain friendships here, have all combined to help me find my way through it.
I feel mostly whole and mostly better about almost all of it and I am now making choices and decisions that I hope bring me to a better place.
I, as you said, am moving forward.
I’m not sure we ever heal fully and we all carry the scars of our past with us forever in one form or another.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
Honestly ,feel like I'm going backwards most days.
My son and I had a heart-to-heart talk yesterday we've been having some problems in our relationship ,but we were able to be quite honest with each other and he suggested during the conversation that maybe I'm just trying to still live the life I did while my husband was alive and I needed to seek out a new path.
I thought that was pretty good advice.
My son and I had a heart-to-heart talk yesterday we've been having some problems in our relationship ,but we were able to be quite honest with each other and he suggested during the conversation that maybe I'm just trying to still live the life I did while my husband was alive and I needed to seek out a new path.
I thought that was pretty good advice.
HikingMan · 56-60, M
@Justmeraeagain We are often harder on ourselves and more dismissing of our progress than we deserve.
We need to be able to give ourselves credit for all the small wins that come everyday, and I know sometimes a day can be filled with setbacks and upsetting circumstances that leave us weeping ourselves to bed at night.
But when we wake up it might be the perfect time to tell ourselves that "We got through yesterday." and treat that itself as a victory.
I doubt you backslide half as much as you think.
We need to be able to give ourselves credit for all the small wins that come everyday, and I know sometimes a day can be filled with setbacks and upsetting circumstances that leave us weeping ourselves to bed at night.
But when we wake up it might be the perfect time to tell ourselves that "We got through yesterday." and treat that itself as a victory.
I doubt you backslide half as much as you think.
Coisty · 51-55, M
Space. Being alone. Recharges me no end
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
Getting under someone else
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Daisy57 · 56-60, F
@MrBrownstone I’ll think of a day and if you guess it I will consider it. 🙃
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
@Daisy57 Consider what?
Daisy57 · 56-60, F
@MrBrownstone exactly
