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Is there something that you did to someone which you think is morally wrong, but you still fail to feel bad because that person sort of deserved it?

I am a good person, I swear 馃し鈥嶁檧锔廡here has never been an incident in my life where I felt I am evil or bad for doing something.... until 2020. I think what I did to someone wasn't right, but I fail to feel bad because I think he deserves it, I feel he intended to take advantage of me/harm me if things didn't go his way, and I just beat him to it.. But I admit I should have known better .. I am just surprised that I didn't lose sleep over it when I often feel guilty so very easily.
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Adroit31-35, M
No, cause fuck 鈥榚m 馃構
Not surprised you could see ahead smarty pants. If he deserved it then it wasn鈥檛 wrong.
Adroit31-35, M
[@4367,MissGaga] I can really understand where you are coming from. Like you said if you normally feel guilty over silly stuff and don鈥檛 with him then refer to the first section of my previous reply 馃槈. I鈥檓 not sure if I have ever intentionally hurt someone. If it鈥檚 friends I鈥檓 bothered with I usually just pitch them shit and they take the hint. If it鈥檚 my partner I usually shut down and wait until I am ready to resolve the problem. Who knows what I would have done in your situation though 馃檭
MissGaga26-30, F
[@1182629,Adroit] [quote] If it鈥檚 my partner I usually shut down and wait until I am ready to resolve the problem.[/quote] Yea I am not good at confrontation too when it is someone I love.. I guess it all boils down the word "intentionally".. who knows, I may have hurt someone before without knowing it, but I know I'd never do intentionally, and more importantly, do it and not even care.. to be honest, I scared myself a little lol didn't know I could be this cold!
Adroit31-35, M
[@4367,MissGaga] I鈥檝e gotten a lot better. I鈥檓 usually pretty calm on the outside and getting control of my emotions has helped me maintain that. Ya I feel ya as far as 鈥渋ntentions鈥 go. That鈥檚 why I said I鈥檓 not sure. I鈥檓 sure it at some point everyone unintentionally hurts someone. He must have been a real dirt bag then if you could do that without remorse 馃榿 being a guy I don鈥檛 have to worry about that as much except for gold diggers, but I鈥檓 poor so that problem sorts itself out 馃槈
PerthSurfer46-50, M
I think if you protected yourself from someone taking advantage of you then you did the right thing and it鈥檚 their problem.

I鈥檝e had moments like that but while I didn鈥檛 like my actions I鈥檓 glad I stood up for myself.
PerthSurfer46-50, M
[@4367,MissGaga] We are both a fan of telling it like it is with no BS 馃槂. It gets easy after a while to tell when someone isn't being straightforward. Usually they seem too good to be true. Real people usually have heaps of crap going on like us lol. If in doubt.. shut them out, that's not history channel that's me 馃槀 There's a book called The Art Of War by Sun Tzu.. it's about actual military strategy but it translates well into personal and corporate life. You'd like it think. It was written 2,500 years ago.
MissGaga26-30, F
[@557074,PerthSurfer] [quote]shut them out, that's not history channel that's me[/quote] HAHHAHAH that made me laugh 馃槀I agree... I think what I did wasn't right, but i am only talking about the "mean", but I don't regret one bit shutting him out.. because even now after a lot of months have passed, I am glad I ended it.II think that book would interest me! 馃憤
PerthSurfer46-50, M
[@4367,MissGaga] For what it's worth i think you did what i would have done 馃槑

No, maybe because I believe a bad person will use any excuse to be even worse. Maybe because I'm not clever enough to find a way to have my revenge safely!
MissGaga26-30, F
[@18983,EarthlingWise] this is not a form of rationalization though trying to justify the bad things we do to make ourselves feel better.. . Because even though I think that person wasn't exactly a 'victim', I still believe that what I did wasn't nice or something in my nature. So yea, I do believe that him deserving it isn't a good excuse, but I still fail to feel bad for him.
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