if she abanded you then i would try staying away from her

Not sure what you want from these posts.

Your mother apparently is a horrible human being, who doesn't want you but yet for some reason you want to move to England and live with her. Everyone in your life says this is a profoundly stupid idea. Everyone I have seen gives you advice on here says the same thing.

What are you expecting us to say? That suddenly this is now a great idea? Nope sorry, still a dumpster fire of an idea.

I don't find anything wrong in his thinking. And, I've little to no respect for those women and men who abandoned their kids at a young age.

I’m puzzled - how can your boyfriend be female ?

Long term relationships never work to be realistic, it's half a relationship at best. Don't know the details but you'd have to start your entire life again in a new place which is harder than it sounds, can take years. Bare it in mind anyway.

Do you whatever you want to do and only be around people who will support that.

Didn't you make another post saying your mother was dead?

Your boyfriend is a "she" ?

Well done on that decision