Just how do people get into these weird fetishes in the first place? I don't understand

My theory is that it’s just moving the goalposts. People start getting off to one “normal” thing, but in their pursuit of self-pleasure you move ever so slightly into more obscure subjects. Your mind begins associating certain themes or objects or situations with sexual gratification, and those things act as an anchor for the subsequent times you get off. Your mind relates two unrelated things the same way it does for irrational fears or memory shortcuts. The brain rewires itself all the time, so it’s very likely that those associations eventually turn into fetishes

SW-User

I’m guessing it starts when they unexpedtly get turned on by something unusual.

Dusty101 · F

A curiosity process. They are intrigued by a lot of that stuff.. and get involved with it and love it. Not everyone's cuppa of tea and not mine... I certainly have no problem with anyone having a fetish as long as they don't come spanking or tapping on my door with it.

Wisconsin · 31-35, M

Usually an event early in life

Subsumedpat · 36-40, M

I assume you are talking about a real fetish not just something someone happens to like to do as a preference and call it a fetish. I wrote a story about that, it is pretty complicated and starts very early in life.

https://similarworlds.com/2449251-I-Am-Facinated-By-Human-Behavior/428934-What-causes-all-these-fetishes-It-makes-no-sense

Quizzical · 46-50, M

Even psychologists are not entirely sure how a fetish develops.

tallpowerhouseblonde · 36-40, F

Are we not supposed to blame it on a bad childhood experience?

SW-User

From EP but I don't know exactly where they come from In the first place

Phrig · 41-45, M

Ask them?

PinocchioBoy · M

Childhood experiences and crushes and/or sexualized fears and frustrations as coping mechanisms.

SW-User

Omg idk 😂😂

SW-User

Depends on what you consider a weird fetish...?

Orlando

It’s isually a creepy uncle ....

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

Well define weird.