@DancingStarGoddess He was as good of a friend as any of my R/L friends are or were. He had a way about him that made you feel comfortable in his presence on line or on the phone. Strange to feel the loss like he lived next door and realize I never actually saw his face. Some people can just command respect with the softest of tones.
@Dainbramadge I understand. We spoke for a while some months back. I just tend to be quite covert about my conversations with people here and no one ever really knows they happened but me and the other party. I could almost swear I saw their name fairly recently but I think it was as you said, some weeks ago. I'm off and on here a lot
@JimboSaturn Our mutual friend said they knew of a few people that should be notified and I figured I would just go ahead and make an official post about him. I'm glad I did because I had no idea he had touched this many people.
I know what he meant to me and I am glad this many other people had the privalage of his company.
@GoFish I used to tease him that "Not everybody had a Norman Rockwell childhood". LOL He had significant struggles for sure but his attitude seemed to sooth most of it into life lessons learned.
He and I were chatting in PM here one day a few years back and it turned out he wasn't very comfortable writing and he told me to call him and gave me his number.
I wrote back and told him I didn't do that with people I knew from here, with it being anonymous and all. He just wrote back and told me not to be such a sissy and to call him. LOL I am glad I did. Our conversations were normally 3 or 4 hours long. I don't think I have ever talked on the phone that long to anyone.
He was full of wisdom and had an amazing way of captivating me no matter if he was sharing an amazing story from his life or commenting on some hairbrained thing I had done.
I guess it's normal to have regrets when someone like him passes but I truly wish I had called rather than make that last message.
@Magenta I knew I wasn't the only person who he had touched deeply.
That is why I posted his obituary without concealing his real name and location.
There is a place at the bottom to leave a message for his family and I am going to leave one and I thought it would be nice if anyone wanted to share their experience with the family it would be nice.
@Dainbramadge He was a Green Beret in Viet Nam. His weapon of choice was a Katana. He was also a pilot and ended up owning a P38. He was a mechanic in civilian life and after his discharge he sold his garage and bought a license to grow Marijuana for dispensaries in California. Of course he tested is products personally, but he made a small fortune doing that. I remember he took his ex wife back in because she was homeless and dying of cancer, then he got cancer and passed himself. He was a nice man (to me anyway) and I admired his service. My adoptive father was a Marine. The Admin booted him off here after a lawsuit he filed against them. So I lost contact and only heard of his demise later from members he stayed in contact with.
@MsSwan From his posts he made here and the things he and I talked about in the wee hours of the mornings made me feel he was a wonderfully wise man with a great sense of humor and outlook on life. But I can't help but feel he was so much more than even that.
Thank you for posting, I was very worried, now I'm sad to hear this. We DMd practically every day, but didn’t bother sharing RL contact...we just didn’t....he had definite struggles and used humor and music to get through them. I hope he's at peace.
@Dainbramadge Same, he brought up Tower Records a lot and liked vinyl, being really into audio and used to ask me technical questions... I'd follow up asking him how his Woofers and Tweeters were doing...I'm really glad he lived a full life. I felt like he had some sort of mobility problem, but he wouldn't go into that with me...but I did ask him about his UN and he told me he intended to be BookemDano - but after the typo it just sort of stuck...
@Dainbramadge That's funny - he made similar life related comments to me - which was surprising to me how perceptive he could be from a relatively small amount of info...and same - he was good natured about it - so I didn't feel insulted - man, I can't believe it...
That's sad news. My condolences to all his friends on here. I don't know if it's a good idea to share all those details about his name, life and family on here though. As far as I know he didn't post about that himself, so maybe he wouldn't want that to get out here. You probably know him a lot better than I do though.