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Dear moms, if you're a widow and your daughter is going through something, what advice would you give her?

Would you tell her to bear with it and be kind? Or would you tell her to be strong and kick ass? Because right now, I really want to understand mom.
Tomorrow · 56-60, F
The advice would depend on what situation she was going through. I'm not sure the advice would be different if a mom was a widow or not. 🤷‍♀️
Casheyane · 26-30, F
[@895635,Tomorrow] I understand the words. It's the accepting part that's hard when I have to change my expectations of her. You remember back when you were a kid and parents are like super heroes? It wasn't like that for me, but I did believe they would always be protecting me and fighting my battles or cheering me on. So now, the adult me is being stubborn accepting that she wants me to back down when I trained myself to be strong enough to fight. These days I hardly care what people think. I had to learn that adults make bad decisions too and I don't have to listen to them.
Tomorrow · 56-60, F
[@594425,Casheyane] From what you've said, it sounds like you two have developed a different strategy for dealing with life's rough patches. And well...that's ok. We all have our own path navigate. I do remember thinking my parents were super heroes. I also remember when I began to see them for who they were. Ordinary people striving to do their best in an unsure world. But being human. Making mistakes. When we can see that and accept it, and still love them, life makes much more sense. Just my take on things.
Mindful · 51-55, F
[@895635,Tomorrow] true. I do remember realizing my parents were just ordinary people who made huge mistakes ( or so I thought)
That was a challenging day.
My parents were just like everyone else! So normal and well not at all in love like fairy tale stories —loving but it was nothing like the movies or books

 
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