Just to let you know. My wife and I separated and then divorced after 20 years. And from the day our divorce became final, we have become the best of friends and enjoy each others company more now than I think we ever did.life moves on and in most cases for the better.
Yes it is make sure if you have life insurance make sure you change the name who the money goes to because if you do not your Ex get it. Get your own bank account get your name off any joint account you have with your Ex. If you are getting the house have all the locked changed just to make sure you are the only one with keys. If the lock are good just call a locksmith to change the key and while you are at it have one key for all the locks. If there's an alarm system make sure you change the master code and delete your ex code and call the alarm company and remove his name. Because if you do not well he could break into the house and call the alarm company and tell them anything and because his name is still their they will still listen to him this is fact. I use to work in the field so I know this. If there are kid try your best to keep them out of it remember he is still their dad and they love him. Depending the laws where you live kid have a choice whether the want to see their dad or not. Get your own credit cards do not use any joint cards because he still has rights to them so he could charge them up and you are stuck paying for them well you both are. But still get your own.
@updown2020: thank you very much. We are both europeans french/Irish and totally dismayed with canadian laws but we are done.
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I'm sorry to hear that. I thought it was the worst thing... and it was... but afterwards I met the woman who's my wife today... and I'm quite glad. But that doesn't mean it's not tough when you are going through it...
@Djce45: thank you. Am turning a page too and trying to stay optimistic too 🙂
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Context does matter... of course you should review your own record and see where you need to change.. repent, .. what have you, and then move on and stay strong.
The anxiety, anger, sadness, etc. will eventually fade away. There are reasons why you're getting divorced, always remember that. SW is a great place to vent, and discuss.
@peterjohnson: thank you yes I am feeling like screaming for some reason I cannot. Years of cultish behaviour imposed. If that makes sense but thanks anyway.