This is a lesson I learned when I began working with those coming out of addiction. They all needed love, but they didn't know how to deal with love having been deprived of it as children. Learning that saying, "No, I'm not doing that for you," seemed harsh sometimes, but manipulation had been a learned behaviour and the kindest thing was to let them learn that caring didn't mean you gave them everything they wanted instantly or at all sometimes.

I found a happy balance by being reliable and making that other Bible saying clear: my 'yes' was 'yes' and my 'no' was 'no'.

Genius!!! Genius!!! Genius!!! I ended up with a pace maker because the Lord gave me the fragrance of life that somebody wasn't worthy of me, and I tried pleading with the Lord give him another chance!!!! It wasn't for the faint of heart in the end, and I ended up with a PACE MAKER!!!
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Edit I felt the need to prove that my love was pure, as in brotherly love, not romantic kind of love not just say so, but in the sight of God Himself... And from that day forward I choose to continue platonic brotherly love and compassion and understanding... But I'm not looking for extra guy friends when I have my own loving husband at home, with plenty of testosterone in my life thanks to his friends, my boys and their friends whom I love like my own kids, Uncles, and so on God has blessed me, and I chose not to bite the hand that feeds me!! Look into my heart, let it be in the light of the worlds for all to see the truth flaws and all.... I mean well! Because of God, may they glorify my Father for all that He has done to me!

That is whole lot of a lesson for the day. Recently, I had interaction with a friend who threw little parties and I was the only guest. Somehow, I did not like the idea of him paying so, I threw a party and we had the best lobsters and what not to say.
Days later, he said he was going out and he wanted me to live at his home for months for free but it was not all. He wanted me to get his all home appliances and basics packed and get it moved to his new city. Though, I am not sure how sure he was that I will do it. I chose not to do it. I would have done had he a pre defined route like whom to give keys, whom to hand over a few items.I accepted that Friendship is nice but not at the cost of me overburdening myself.

And he respects me for refusal. So, I know I did a good job without feeling guilty of refusing his offer.


And Thank you for reaffirmation that

"Above all else, guard your heart...for everything you do, flows from it."— Proverbs 4:23

As When it comes from the scripture, it is more authentic than the Constitution of A Nation.

I'm a person who needs a lot of space, partly because I get overwhelmed easily and partly because of some stuff in my past. But it's so hard to explain to partners that my needing space is not an indictment of them. I'm not trying to be cold or distant, I'm just really bruised on the inside. But I think I'm getting better at walking that line.

10/10 or Hindsight is 20/20! Thank you LadyGrace I get what your saying now... What the word of God is saying through you... I will not try to plead with God when God says go no further, it could have saved me and my loved ones from a lot!