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Pureblossom · 22-25, F
It's just one of the many things wrong with people . I'm afraid a lot need something to be made extremely obvious for them to acknowledge it( in this case physical abuse scars or what not) even then some will denial the facts. I've been thinking about this lately and have come to the conclusion that a lot of people don't bother to use their minds to think much especially if they have not been or are in a similar situation. It's hard to find considerate, thoughtful people who are able to see through the surface.

Trevo · 26-30, M
Maybe they're ignorant about the consequences
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@Trevo I would agree. It's not easy to understand how horrible it can be.
@Trevo ^this
I sat in a rocking chair for a year crying because I was so depressed over the emotional abuse I was getting from my now EX-Husband, until I almost lost myself.
I was always a strong woman so bringing me down made him look better.
I finally got out with the help of family and friends.
If you have anyone you can go to for help, do it.
It was hard at 44 to start over, but it is even harder to stay and keep putting up with the abuse.
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@GingerPeach THank you for that. At 41, I am scared of having to start over. :/
@Dewkissedrose I know how you feel but don't waste anymore of your life on a dead end relationship. The first year was very hard but then I met the love of my life and we spent 10 wonderful years together before he died.
My ex said I would never make it without him. Not only did I make it without him I did better then he ever could.
The longer you wait the harder it is to start over. You are still young enough to have a good life and a better one then you have now.
ImRileyTheDog · 22-25, F
Easier to hide the emotional/psychological abuse
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@ImRileyTheDog this is true
DiamondPrincess89 · 31-35, F
Because inward scars are harder to detect. Not only that, but there's also a lot of gaslighting and secrets involved.
I agree with Trevo’s answer, in that many people aren’t aware of the consequences and affects emotional abuse has and I’d also like to add that I think many people are unaware of emotional abuse and what it actually is, primarily the people experiencing it or in the situation.
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@Stark it took me 16 years to finally come to terms with the fact that this is what's going on. I suppose if I had a hard time admitting it, it could be hard for others to believe.
@Dewkissedrose there are many situations involving infatuation, love, romance where people are oblivious to how bad their situation truly is even though there are clear signs of it. A lot of the time they either ignore it or make up an excuse as to why it’s happening to justify the actions of the other person and people only know what you let them know or let them see. People typically paint a happy picture of their relationship so to others it may appear to be a healthy relationship. 🤷🏽‍♀️
Peaceful · F
You can see the physical, it's harder to dismiss. 😔
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@Peaceful Yes. It's a long story on why I haven't yet. But, I'm nearing the edge.
Peaceful · F
@Dewkissedrose no judgement from me. You will if and when you are ready. But I quietly hope you do, you don't deserve this. 😔
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@Peaceful Thank you.
emotional abuse isn't usually plainly visible..
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@SStarfish ah. Gotcha. Yeah. I realize this. I've always asked myself why women who are physically abused stay. I get it now. And it's so hard to explain. Starting over is scary as hell.
@Dewkissedrose I know.. it's complicated sometimes and usually they are dependent somehow and or in love on some lvl too.. so.. yeah
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@SStarfish yes. I love him.
SW-User
Because of snowflakeism!
Maybe you need to worry about yourself. @SW-User
SW-User
@Spoiledbrat how so?
If you think that people are often weak when they share that something is wrong, maybe it would be better not to concern yourself. That’s what I meant when I said maybe you should worry about yourself. @SW-User
Love & Concern lets the cycle keep running.
SW-User
They don't know how to handle it.
What dafuq is emotional abuse?
Sometimes people figure "He's not hitting her, she's not leaving---perhaps that's just the way they communicate."
Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F
@bijouxbroussard Interesting point of view. Never thought of it that way.
@Dewkissedrose You'd be surprised how many do.

 
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