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helsbels 路 26-30, F
I know a person's weight or size is not something family should comment on (not that it always stops them), but to put it delicately, with you being the weight you are and seeing your girlfriend gain a noticeable amount too, have her family raised it at all? Would you not feel under scrutiny or that (rightly or wrongly) you'll be 'blamed' for her weight gain?
And again putting it a certain way, as there's nothing 'wrong' with being bigger per se, but do they not have concerns about either of you?
And again putting it a certain way, as there's nothing 'wrong' with being bigger per se, but do they not have concerns about either of you?
@helsbels Hannah's family from day 1 have been supportive of us as a couple and accepted me entirely from the first time I met them, personally my weight has been referenced in passing several times but always in a neutral or positive way. Like, it's an evident fact that is neither ignored or paid attention to particularly.
After one big family meal I was on the couch with only Hannah's aunt there with me. She patted my stomach and said 'how's it going there big momma'? It was affectionate and shows how close and comfortable we are. So I don't feel they see my weight as a problem.
To my knowledge no-one has said anything about Hannah, at least to either of us. They may have mentioned it between themselves in passing. Hannah is her own person so I wouldn't feel blamed, I loved her as she was and love her the same now so I don't have any guilt or put pressure on her to be a certain way.
After one big family meal I was on the couch with only Hannah's aunt there with me. She patted my stomach and said 'how's it going there big momma'? It was affectionate and shows how close and comfortable we are. So I don't feel they see my weight as a problem.
To my knowledge no-one has said anything about Hannah, at least to either of us. They may have mentioned it between themselves in passing. Hannah is her own person so I wouldn't feel blamed, I loved her as she was and love her the same now so I don't have any guilt or put pressure on her to be a certain way.
