Does Love really come slow and ever go that fast? [I Dealing With Breakups]

If something special ended is it better to never forget that person and always stay in their lives, you know just keep their memories and photos and don’t change status or anything, let other people think that you still talk?
Or is better to completely let that person go and delete everything, change all status and updates and throw out old memories and not see or speak to them again?
I don’t agree with a rebound but is that the most logic option for a woman who doesn’t let go of love because it’s that hard to find easy?
And promiscuous? Is that healthy for a woman to become following a long term thing?

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FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M

Yes, love (at least aspects of it) can disappear, seemingly, in an instant.

When that happens, to preserve my sanity, I need to let go of the "in love" part as soon as I can (though that can still take a while).

But if that person was truly worth loving once, they are worth loving always. I don't believe that I have ever stopped loving someone I ever cared deeply about.

The challenge is figuring out what "loving" them looks like after the "in love" part is over. It needs to be truly selfless. It can be anything from being the best loving friend one can possibly be to staying far, far away and silently sending good thoughts their way, depending on what works for them. It's not always easy (in fact it's rarely easy), but it is always worthwhile.

I can't be indifferent to someone I once loved.

Honestly, I'm not sure this is the most healthy approach, so it's most definitely not a recommendation -- but it's all I can do.