I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior
When someone doesn’t want to move on from rejection, how would you make them understand if they don’t want to understand?
A friend of mine was ditched and rejected after her engagement. All her family members are trying to make her understand, even being supportive to help her move on. But she doesn’t want to move on.
Maybe she doesn’t know what she wants. On one hand, she wants to focus on her career, but she can’t coz she thinks too much. On other hand, when she gets angry, she wants revenge. When she is calm, she wants him back. Her family members who are being supportive seem like enemies to her. She blames them, she blames herself, but she still hopes for him.
I understand what she’s going through but she doesn’t want to move on. She wants to blame everyone for her failure in everything and i tried to tell her calmly, properly, that she should start focusing on her job and prepare for that, but her self confidence has gone too low.
She herself doesn’t know what she wants, how can anyone else help her?
I’m trying to understand how i can help her, but saying or telling her anything and she hears it from one ear and it goes out from another. She doesn’t want to listen. I asked her what she wants, and she doesn’t know.
I am at my wits’ end now. I can’t make her understand anymore. Maybe i should just let her be? But she becomes hyper and starts shouting with slightest trigger. I even suggested her to move out to a different place even within the city, find a new job but she doesn’t want to.
How can you make someone understand if they dont want to understand? You can’t. Lesson learnt.
A friend of mine was ditched and rejected after her engagement. All her family members are trying to make her understand, even being supportive to help her move on. But she doesn’t want to move on.
Maybe she doesn’t know what she wants. On one hand, she wants to focus on her career, but she can’t coz she thinks too much. On other hand, when she gets angry, she wants revenge. When she is calm, she wants him back. Her family members who are being supportive seem like enemies to her. She blames them, she blames herself, but she still hopes for him.
I understand what she’s going through but she doesn’t want to move on. She wants to blame everyone for her failure in everything and i tried to tell her calmly, properly, that she should start focusing on her job and prepare for that, but her self confidence has gone too low.
She herself doesn’t know what she wants, how can anyone else help her?
I’m trying to understand how i can help her, but saying or telling her anything and she hears it from one ear and it goes out from another. She doesn’t want to listen. I asked her what she wants, and she doesn’t know.
I am at my wits’ end now. I can’t make her understand anymore. Maybe i should just let her be? But she becomes hyper and starts shouting with slightest trigger. I even suggested her to move out to a different place even within the city, find a new job but she doesn’t want to.
How can you make someone understand if they dont want to understand? You can’t. Lesson learnt.
