I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior
My Rubix Cube Theory... I believe that a person’s familial structure, and the role each individual member plays, has the most profound influence on human behavior. These roles we fall into shape our lives in more ways than any human brain could ever comprehend. I think it makes sense, since our families are typically the first relationships we form, that the reason behind any decision we make can be directly traced back to our primary roles we assumed in our families. These primary interpersonal connections are what shape our future sense of self, who we are, what we believe, how we cope with life and make decisions, but most importantly, the positional role we play when placed in any group setting. I came from one of the most ordinary families that ever existed; my usage of the term “ordinary” is being taken from society’s collective definition of what a normal family life should consist of. Meaning: if one were to look back to any day of my childhood, the events observed would be indicative of any normalized family from any sitcom on television. While what you are in your family, does have some effect on your social development be it sister, brother, first born, only child, or youngest of 18, it is the personalities of involved individuals that have the most profound influence on one’s development of future roles they will play in group settings throughout their lives. Although this type of involvement customarily pertains to people who are blood related in our early years, later in life, these group settings tend to describe a work environment or an organized sports team, things of that nature. Essentially, any close-knit group of individuals who are held together for extended periods of time, usually all working together toward a common goal. Therefore, for lack of better words, I will use the term family to describe relationships typically formed before puberty and the term group to depict relationships customarily formed after puberty.
The way I visualize any family or group dynamic, is by comparing it to a Rubix Cube. Each person represents his or her own color and each face of the cube represents a core role. In every family or group, there are core roles that need to be filled, these roles are tailored to fit the various needs the family or group has. Every group needs leadership so one face of the Rubix Cube is going to include all the different color squares from all people in the group that have leadership responsibilities. When a person enters into a new group dynamic, they must quickly assume the roles in which the group, as its own entity dictates to them. Each twist of the cube will shift the colored squares into different combinations of roles trying to create the perfect working cube. Just like a Rubix Cube, each shift affects every adjoining role and every person who is a part of that role. Each time the cube as a whole tries to correct a deficiency in one particular area of the cube, it affects every face of the cube as well as every color. If you have ever tried to solve a Rubix Cube, you know that it takes a great deal of time and patience, and you know that having just one square out of place could force you to have to completely restructure the whole cube all over again. Sometimes it is necessary to go a long distance out of the way in order to come back a short distance correctly.
So why is a Rubix Cube so difficult to solve? Because of the inner mechanics of the way each block is connected to all the rest. Metaphorically speaking, it is because of the interpersonal relationships between each person belonging to the family or group, and how each personality interacts with the other personalities of the cube. Take out the interpersonal relationships and sever the connections between each member of the group, and you are left with a bunch of single, colored squares, which are free to be placed on any side, in any role. Much like when you peel the stickers off a Rubix Cube… ie. CHEATING!
The way I visualize any family or group dynamic, is by comparing it to a Rubix Cube. Each person represents his or her own color and each face of the cube represents a core role. In every family or group, there are core roles that need to be filled, these roles are tailored to fit the various needs the family or group has. Every group needs leadership so one face of the Rubix Cube is going to include all the different color squares from all people in the group that have leadership responsibilities. When a person enters into a new group dynamic, they must quickly assume the roles in which the group, as its own entity dictates to them. Each twist of the cube will shift the colored squares into different combinations of roles trying to create the perfect working cube. Just like a Rubix Cube, each shift affects every adjoining role and every person who is a part of that role. Each time the cube as a whole tries to correct a deficiency in one particular area of the cube, it affects every face of the cube as well as every color. If you have ever tried to solve a Rubix Cube, you know that it takes a great deal of time and patience, and you know that having just one square out of place could force you to have to completely restructure the whole cube all over again. Sometimes it is necessary to go a long distance out of the way in order to come back a short distance correctly.
So why is a Rubix Cube so difficult to solve? Because of the inner mechanics of the way each block is connected to all the rest. Metaphorically speaking, it is because of the interpersonal relationships between each person belonging to the family or group, and how each personality interacts with the other personalities of the cube. Take out the interpersonal relationships and sever the connections between each member of the group, and you are left with a bunch of single, colored squares, which are free to be placed on any side, in any role. Much like when you peel the stickers off a Rubix Cube… ie. CHEATING!
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