I Have Trust Issues
I just feel like he wants to be with her or someone else and not me.... but he just doesn't want to say it. It just always feels like that... and I feel like its true... maybe it is... sigh... FML :'(
26-30, F
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sancarn
You may not want my advice but on the off chance that you do, I've been in a very similar situation.
I was in a relationship with someone that I had been dating with for 3 years. In the last 6 months I started developing extreme trust issues...Looking back on it though it wasn't necessarily because she was untrustworthy but it was because I wasn't getting what I wanted from a relationship. I basically wanted someone who had no life apart from me, which is perhaps a bit selfish, but that's what i wanted. I would never control her but I always wanted to have her attention...
But I wasn't getting what I wanted from the relationship. It dawned on me one day when I was crying with my mother that all this was ridiculous... There's no point being in a relationship you don't like... There's no point being in a relationship where you aren't getting what you want.
Relationships are two way and if one person isn't putting in the effort the other thinks they should, the relationship isn't working.If a relationship isn't working, why cry about the guy? Move on and stay strong, and one day you will find better guys who will give you what you want in a relationship :)
And trust me, you will find someone else :)Relationships are more about learning about what we like and what we want in a partner. Your first few won't be great and it may take some time for you to learn what you like but think back on this relationship and ask yourself "what did I like?".
It's these qualities that you want to find in your next boy.For me I want someone Caring, Kind hearted and someone with beautiful eyes ^.^ It's not going to be the end of the world Keke <3 And I am happy to talk/listen if you need to :)
I was in a relationship with someone that I had been dating with for 3 years. In the last 6 months I started developing extreme trust issues...Looking back on it though it wasn't necessarily because she was untrustworthy but it was because I wasn't getting what I wanted from a relationship. I basically wanted someone who had no life apart from me, which is perhaps a bit selfish, but that's what i wanted. I would never control her but I always wanted to have her attention...
But I wasn't getting what I wanted from the relationship. It dawned on me one day when I was crying with my mother that all this was ridiculous... There's no point being in a relationship you don't like... There's no point being in a relationship where you aren't getting what you want.
Relationships are two way and if one person isn't putting in the effort the other thinks they should, the relationship isn't working.If a relationship isn't working, why cry about the guy? Move on and stay strong, and one day you will find better guys who will give you what you want in a relationship :)
And trust me, you will find someone else :)Relationships are more about learning about what we like and what we want in a partner. Your first few won't be great and it may take some time for you to learn what you like but think back on this relationship and ask yourself "what did I like?".
It's these qualities that you want to find in your next boy.For me I want someone Caring, Kind hearted and someone with beautiful eyes ^.^ It's not going to be the end of the world Keke <3 And I am happy to talk/listen if you need to :)