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I Hate Fake People

So a week back,I got a friend request from an unknown man from Liverpool UK.At first ,I was doubtful in adding him but got a message quickly that he was a common friend and wants to know me.

I put him in restricted list and added him.For the next 7 days,I got everything from I love you,I missyou,I want us to be together cards,every single day and night.That was overwhelming at first,but I did not react.Just said thanks.

He kept on sending me flowers,everyday until one day he asked my address and postal code which I refused .

I admit I take my own time to trust but got a bit surprised when I was asked my address.
He said he purchased a wedding ring which is plain fake as he showed me a picture of it seemingly downloaded from google images.

He said he purchased it as he came from his ofc and wants to send me ,so he requires the address and postal code.

I immedietly got alarmed and though I could not sound harsh,I still told him I dont accept gifts like this.

He was soo angry ,he stopped texting altogether.

Now I wonder,Who was he?was he really what he claimed or some freaked out guy..

For whatever he was,I was damn sure of one thing-He was fake.

The purpose is hidden though.Internet is not safe anymore,I say..

*sigh*
Northwest · M
I have neither requested nor received friends requests on SW yet. If it works like anywhere else, there should be a message with the request. Some people play the game of collecting friends, but if you think about it, how could one have thousands of friends?

A legitimate friend request should come with an introduction, as in why this person would like to be friends. Otherwise, I generally ignore these requests.

You have F next to your gender, so I am guessing you get a lot of friend requests from guys. Men like to do that. Darken the skies with friends requests, and hope some stick.

On Skye, I get a few requests per day from barely legal "girls" who would like to know me. Really? I am in my 50s.

The Internet is full of nothing but scams. I suppose it works, and this is why people still do it. Caveat Emptor.
xVellx · 36-40, M
Hmm…the first thing this brought to mind (which is not to say that I believe by any means that this is actually true of this particular man) is that he may have been on the autism spectrum. I know of a few autistic adult men who, unsurprisingly, have never managed to make any meaningful relationships with a woman, and become increasingly desperate and frustrated as they get older, with a tendency to latch onto to any female who will give them the time of day as though they are soulmates, and no real ability to understand how this behavior appears from the other person's perspective. They've behaved in almost exactly the way you described here, especially the anger and abrupt cutting of ties at the first overt sign of disinterest, when they realize "it's" happening again ("it" being the latest in a seemingly endless cycle of them working up sincere hopes for connection with a woman who has no interest in them). Pretty sad, really, since there really is no way at all for any woman to "help" them in the way they want even if she took altruism to its utmost limits.

The Web has never been any less "safe" than it is now, but it is only unsafe in the same way that driving a car or hiking in the woods is unsafe — in that, in all three cases, you are basically surrounded by constant INVITATIONS to danger, but most rationally-minded people have the sense to not accept those invitations, despite occasionally entertaining themselves by exploring them within controllable limits.
Northwest · M
This is a standard Nigerian scam. One of the highlights of this scam is jumping into it real quick, and sending flowers on daily basis. What would have come next is a request for money, to deal with some emergency, or perhaps because he wants to visit you, but somehow he cannot get to his funds.

I know a few people who fell victim to this scam. The part that puzzles me though, is the flowers. You said that you did not share an address with him, but you must have shared some sort of address, otherwise, he would not be able to send you flowers on daily basis. Did you share your work address?
Northwest · M
@Venuscalling: OK. That's how the typical Nigerian scam works. Within an exchange or two, they confess love. Glad you did not fall for it.
zorroo · 56-60, M
he is just another crazy person.
don't understand how come he wants to send you wedding ring not even knowing who you are...
Maggimay · 46-50, F
Oh my that does sound very creepy. My alarm bells go off when they start declaring their love for you so quickly.
That really is terrible for you. And, if as Vell says he is autistic then terrible for him as well.
I am not saying you did anything wrong Venus.
I have a son with autism and my heart goes out to all people with it.
I am sorry you went through it, and sorry he is struggling with social issues he cannot understand.

But he is not crazy.
Just making a statement of fact.
Soulspace · F
@Northwest-This makes me nervous...I have some pending friend requests from unknown users..I keep on blocking them time and again yet I get quite a good number of strangers requesting friendship..
Soulspace · F
That was my thought exactly.He only saw a few of my pictures but that is all.How on earth can a person send a wedding ring through post ?
I got weirded out completely..
Soulspace · F
@Northwest:Address as in my facebook inbox..he messaged me flowers,bouquets..
No real address involved here..
diablo · 46-50, M
Whooooooaaaaaahhhh!!! Did he really do all that??? Crazy with a capital C!
Enchanted · 56-60, F
Ugh I'm finding that there's a LOT of weirdos here...gotta take care!
masterofyou · 70-79, M
I guess the Internet brings out the best in crazy people..

 
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