I The Cuckquean Fantasy Is Greatly Underappreciated
Yes, "Cuckquean". I didn't know that word either, until today. I means a woman who gets turned on by the idea of her husband/bf having sex with someone else (as opposed to "cuckold", when the man gets turned on by his wife/gf cheating on him). Tellingly, there are over 200 groups in SW that refer to cuckolding, but just 6 to cuckqueaning... (the spell checker wouldn't even recognize the word "cuckquean"...)
It may seem like something cheating men dreamed up in their fantasy world, but here's my personal experience (it may seem like a cuckold experience at first, but no...)
When my wife and I were in our early 30s, having been happily married for 8 years in a monogamous, vanilla-ish relationship, the unthinkable happened: my faithful wife, who had proved over and over that I was the love of her life and didn't had any interest in any other man, confessed that she had met a man a few months before and she was madly in love with him. He was about 10 years older than us, rather good looking and a very nice person overall. It was a huge relationship crisis and she was extremely confused about her feelings... Our relationship was always based in 100% trust and we just told everything to each other, there was no "hiding" of feelings... It was testy of course... I/we thought it was a passing phase and all her feelings would come back to "normal" eventually. The trouble is that she had commited to do volunteer work with the guy for months, and they met several times a week... We though it would be better, perhaps, as this way, with they meeting each other over and over, the novelty would wore off and it would all become just a memory of a bad experience. Yet, months went by and her feelings for the guy only streghntened... She felt super conflicted because she still felt she "loved me", cared about me, etc., but also had and unbeareable urge to "talk to him, hear his voice, see him", like she said... It was very unpleasant for me, although I appreciated her sincerity, and frankly I rather she leave the house and meet the guy rather than being home feeling miserable thinking about him... One day she literaly begged me on her knees to let her go out with him on a date, "just a cup of coffee", she said, and sure enough I told her to go already...
The funny thing is that I still could seduce her whenever I wanted, and we had sex regularly... except that now she would feel "guilty" whenever we had sex, because she would feel she was "cheating" on her "true love", the other guy (lol...) Whatever, at least it was fun for me to make her "cheat" on the guy... But eventually, I don't know if it was out of guilt or some hormonal mess up, she started to ask me to tell her stories of me cheating on her... She wanted to hear my fantasies of me seducing other women (which I had never done, it was a 100% monogamous relationship, although I won't deny I'd find other women attractive, now and then)... She would get turned on with me telling her how sexy other women were, and we would have sex while I told her all the things I'd do to these other women, how I would undress them and have sex with them, and she would have the greatest orgasms, and then she would feel terrible, feeling so ashamed that she actually wanted me to cheat on her... I guess her new emotional situation, the fact she couldn't claim she "only had eyes for me", opened her mind to taboo experiences she would have never contemplated before (as she was super jealous...)
It may seem like something cheating men dreamed up in their fantasy world, but here's my personal experience (it may seem like a cuckold experience at first, but no...)
When my wife and I were in our early 30s, having been happily married for 8 years in a monogamous, vanilla-ish relationship, the unthinkable happened: my faithful wife, who had proved over and over that I was the love of her life and didn't had any interest in any other man, confessed that she had met a man a few months before and she was madly in love with him. He was about 10 years older than us, rather good looking and a very nice person overall. It was a huge relationship crisis and she was extremely confused about her feelings... Our relationship was always based in 100% trust and we just told everything to each other, there was no "hiding" of feelings... It was testy of course... I/we thought it was a passing phase and all her feelings would come back to "normal" eventually. The trouble is that she had commited to do volunteer work with the guy for months, and they met several times a week... We though it would be better, perhaps, as this way, with they meeting each other over and over, the novelty would wore off and it would all become just a memory of a bad experience. Yet, months went by and her feelings for the guy only streghntened... She felt super conflicted because she still felt she "loved me", cared about me, etc., but also had and unbeareable urge to "talk to him, hear his voice, see him", like she said... It was very unpleasant for me, although I appreciated her sincerity, and frankly I rather she leave the house and meet the guy rather than being home feeling miserable thinking about him... One day she literaly begged me on her knees to let her go out with him on a date, "just a cup of coffee", she said, and sure enough I told her to go already...
The funny thing is that I still could seduce her whenever I wanted, and we had sex regularly... except that now she would feel "guilty" whenever we had sex, because she would feel she was "cheating" on her "true love", the other guy (lol...) Whatever, at least it was fun for me to make her "cheat" on the guy... But eventually, I don't know if it was out of guilt or some hormonal mess up, she started to ask me to tell her stories of me cheating on her... She wanted to hear my fantasies of me seducing other women (which I had never done, it was a 100% monogamous relationship, although I won't deny I'd find other women attractive, now and then)... She would get turned on with me telling her how sexy other women were, and we would have sex while I told her all the things I'd do to these other women, how I would undress them and have sex with them, and she would have the greatest orgasms, and then she would feel terrible, feeling so ashamed that she actually wanted me to cheat on her... I guess her new emotional situation, the fact she couldn't claim she "only had eyes for me", opened her mind to taboo experiences she would have never contemplated before (as she was super jealous...)
