I Don't Say I Love You Unless I Mean It
There are so many different types of love...family, friends, people whom I have met where a connection was instant and understood by both. Love can be verbal (I am a great communicator) but is best expressed through the action of caring.
I have been "in love" twice in my life. It doesn't happen easily for me and I expect it to only come along maybe once more.
Infatuation and lust can be part of romantic love, but it doesn't always mean love. They are high emotions that feel fantastic and are easily confused for more.
At some point in any relationship those high emotions die down, because no one can maintain the same feelings indefinitely. We as humans wax and wane with time and changes and circumstances. It is at this point that secondary love enters in. It is a deeper, steadier love, but harder to maintain unless both people are committed to it. It very well may be what is called "true love."
We say that is what we want, to be truly loved but few people want to tread the steps to have it. Speaking for myself as well, the feelings of being "in love" are so amazing and beautiful. Your body and mind are flowing and free...who doesn't want to feel that?
So there always becomes a stage where we either become aware of the love we feel for another and taking the journey to secondary love, or telling ourselves we were wrong about this person...seeing that it was only infatuation or lust and that we have to try again. Some people try over and over, always desperately seeking "true love" and not really understanding how to get it. Others in secondary love have seen it, feel it, and yet even then something can still go wrong. Love is never guaranteed and is always a risk.
But it is a beautiful risk nonetheless. I am open to loving people and being "in love" again. I never say it, unless I mean it:)
-Raven
I have been "in love" twice in my life. It doesn't happen easily for me and I expect it to only come along maybe once more.
Infatuation and lust can be part of romantic love, but it doesn't always mean love. They are high emotions that feel fantastic and are easily confused for more.
At some point in any relationship those high emotions die down, because no one can maintain the same feelings indefinitely. We as humans wax and wane with time and changes and circumstances. It is at this point that secondary love enters in. It is a deeper, steadier love, but harder to maintain unless both people are committed to it. It very well may be what is called "true love."
We say that is what we want, to be truly loved but few people want to tread the steps to have it. Speaking for myself as well, the feelings of being "in love" are so amazing and beautiful. Your body and mind are flowing and free...who doesn't want to feel that?
So there always becomes a stage where we either become aware of the love we feel for another and taking the journey to secondary love, or telling ourselves we were wrong about this person...seeing that it was only infatuation or lust and that we have to try again. Some people try over and over, always desperately seeking "true love" and not really understanding how to get it. Others in secondary love have seen it, feel it, and yet even then something can still go wrong. Love is never guaranteed and is always a risk.
But it is a beautiful risk nonetheless. I am open to loving people and being "in love" again. I never say it, unless I mean it:)
-Raven
51-55, F
