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I Have Learned A Lot, But There Is Much More To Learn

Today I learned a new thing that I see all the time on here. I already knew something was off about people's arguments when this happens but never had a term for those things, tone policing and tone argument:


In short, it's basically where you talk about issues relating to minorities or other things like activism (or anything really) and when you speak in an justifiably angry tone, you get told that you have to act a "certain" way or otherwise your argument isn't justified (also known as tone policing, a subset of tone argument.)

Example (from the first link)

[quote]Writing principally about racism, Patricia Williams characterized what we call the tone argument as "a laissez-faire response that privatizes the self in order to remain unassailably justified in any and all activities", imagining a dialogue between Cain and Abel:

Cain: Abel's part of town is rough turf.

Abel: It upsets me when you say that; you have never been to my part of town. As a matter of fact, my part of town is a leading supplier of milk and honey.

Cain: The news that I'm upsetting you is too upsetting for me to handle. You were wrong to tell me of your upset because now I'm terribly upset.

Abel: I felt threatened first. Listen to me. Take your distress as a measure of my own and empathize with it. Don't ask me to recant and apologize in order to carry this conversation further.[/quote]

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