I Want To Be In A DDLG Relationship

I've always had relationships with dominating men. I keep exploring why. I came across this DDlg and wondered if I had some need like this because of the similarities I saw - curfew, be in bed at this time, wear this, wear that, do this, don't do that. My ex used to inspect stuff when he walked in and I called him the toilet inspector, one day I split gravey all over the toilet just before he came in and he went mad - I thought it was hilarious.

My partner now is more what I call smothering - be careful of this, your shoes hurt so I'm buying you shoe pads, made me watch all the final destinations which I think was to make me more safety conscious but I'm an adrenaline junkie so that didn't take effect. Anyway I saw this DDlg thing and looked at this. As much I don't like aspects of being with dominating men I must like it or I wouldn't keep picking them. Plus I am pretty immature in certain ways, like cartoons which I can't watch with my children anyone because they've grown out of it, like roller-coasters, love Disney land. So I thought maybe this but no diapers.

Most women in relationships, from what I've seen, like their partners to be adult, not that I've been in a relationship with a woman but how they talk and how they behave says they want someone who's not childlike. Myself, as much as I mother my children, expect the person I'm in a relationship to be an adult. Also women with children want help rather than another child. So I think you're barking up the wrong trees there. Men are more dominating and while they might want you to look after some aspects of life they want to look after you more. Although two of my ex's did housework, didn't like me cooking and one did all the washing. So as much as they were dominating they were nurturing in a female way.

I found it to make me feel useless but I've been cleaning since I was 5 and cooking from a young age too. Although they weren't violent when I left my first bf and had counselling (I couldn't cope emotionally without him) I was told it was abusive. I was told my 2nd bf was abusive too. I think the 2nd one was maybe emotionally abusive, but the first one when I look at it in a more detached way was too encouraging of my goals and supportive to be abusive. The second one basically wanted me indoors all the time which if you don't want that is abusive. I generally do what like anyway consequences are generally irrelevant unless it negatively effects my children so as much as they tried to control me they would of had to beat me to achieve that but then even that probably wouldn't work because when my first bf was away I had a breakdown and was put in a mental institution where they beat me everyday and that didn't even break me - I fight, and even beaten and drugged I still got up the next day with determination, it only stopped when my bf called and told me to report it because I didn't think of that - I was completely emotionally and decision wise dependant on him which was why I couldn't cope on my own and why they said he was abusive I think.

After therapy I've been very independent in every way and I like it but still pick dominant men.

Anyway I've gone on and on and my point was short - if you're looking for a partner who is father like: bed times, curfew, is over interested in the friends you have, sets rules, wants you to stay in the house even, tells you what you wear, what to eat, where to go, what work is acceptable, how to do stuff then I believe you'd find that easier with a man. Although men would probably say women are like that lol. Even the care aspect, because they over exaggerate danger often because they see women as weaker (some men). The diaper thing you'd have to find someone specific and the actually being like a little girl but again there's probably more men, from what I've seen on a DDlg site, than women that want the role of a care giver.

I still don't know why I pick dominant men, other than that it's an inbuilt genetic thing because dominant men would give stronger genes and my dad was controlling although encouraging and nurturing at the same time.

For you it's a fantasy from young that's become sexual so it's definitely key for you to have this dynamic. My fantasies are more situational like breaking into a public swimming pool and having sex in the pool or being on a yacht and having sex infront of a string quartet while they still have to keep playing the music. Or a simple one of undoing buttons with my teeth - sounds easier than it is. Or historical like being kidnapped by a viking - they seem like they'd be good in bed lol. So reading your post tells me that probably this DDlg thing is not the answer for me because it doesn't hold excitement and I'd end up ripping the head off of a stuffy and go get get drunk, get in a bar fight and do 3 days jail time no sweat. So this is definitely not the key to why I've always picked dominant men.

For you it sounds like you maybe would find what you need with a trans-man who wants to mother someone who would like the diapers. They'd still have testosterone to be more dominate but want to mother you. You'd get the fantasy of mothering. I dunno, sometimes I think of things in the strangest way.

Anyway much luck 🍀 may you find what you need.

I wonder if you're looking in the right places for a partner. There are plenty of Daddy Doms out there.

Sounds like you would be a delight to an older financially secure man, who would enjoy treating you as his "little girl" both in and out of the bedroom. ????

So sad. Finding a good girl like you is a precious find.