I realized at a young age that everything I was being taught in church hinged on the fear of suffering. Salvation was the carrot, Damnation the stick. Trying to talk about this with my family just got them angry. They dug in their heels, and so did I.
I'm not militant about it. That being said, if people want me to believe in what they believe, they are going to need a lot more than a really old book to do it.