I Enjoy Helping Others

But right now it need some- This past year there was a girl in my band class that I became good friends with. I helped her with any thing she needed and I gave her hope that high school wouldn't be scary. Then during second semester I didn't see her in band but we started to eat lunch together.

About a week later I found my self starting to develop feelings for her. As time went on I learns how good of a friend se really considered me. As the end of the school year approached, I really wanted to ask her out, but I was always too nervous when the time came. As the new school year will be starting in about a month, I am trying to figure out what to do when the school year starts, I really want to be there for her and be a good friend, but I also really like her and want to know if she feels the same.

Please help me?

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almaera

Hm, that's tough. I was on the opposite end of a situation like this.
One of my really good friends turned out to have feelings for me, (asked me out via Facebook,) and at the time, I didn't really know what my feelings were. The date put some strain on our relationship for a while, but after coming to an understanding, we actually got much closer. He's like my best friend now. I'm still confused about my feelings for him, but I think about him a lot.
As for advice, I think telling her your feelings is a good idea. There's not much harm in letting her know your feelings. Just say you like her and ask if she feels the same way, (but don't ask her out until you know for sure. I felt that telling the girl you want the relationship to become something more can complicate things if she isn't ready for that.) Don't come on too strongly or make her feel pressured to return your feelings. If she knows your feelings, it can bring you closer, and she might develop feelings for you afterwords (assuming she hasn't already).

marchdan · 22-25, M

Thanks, that's basically what I have been intending to do, and what I have done in the past with other girls. I just can't get over the fact that I always mess something up. I know it is impossible, but I am trying to find a way to tell her/ find out how she feels, that is correct and that I won't mess up.

almaera

It's not a mistake as long as you get your feelings out and your message is clear. It's kinda cute when guys get nervous and flustered around girls they like. As long as you don't somehow insult her, you're good
Also another tip: Give her some time to think before answering. Maybe drop some hints before you say anything to prepare her. It's tough being put on the spot to answer these things.

marchdan · 22-25, M

Thanks, I am just used to being turned down nicely, but quickly. :/

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