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@Vivaci I still can’t stand them. 😉

@Carissimi Well, better safe than sorry, my friend.

I've shared my RL pics with a few friends privately.

But like they say, once on the internet, it's always there forever!

@Vivaci What can people really do with your photo? I've always shared mine and never had an issue.

@ravenwind43 You’d be surprised, Raven. They sell them to advertisers, and/or superimpose your head on a naked body and use them for unsavory purposes. By this point, I’m sure they can be used for I.D. theft. Also, in this age of doxing, a bad apple, who doesn’t like what you say can dox you. In Britain, they’ll send the thought police to warn you about your speech. This is true.

@Carissimi you're right, my wise friend. @ravenwind43 Other than what Carissimi has said, I think it's about being recognized by your colleagues or family members is something I wouldn't want...I respect my privacy. And I know a lot of my colleagues are in IT. So chances of them visiting sites likes these are pretty common. 🤷

@Carissimi Things can and do happen, I've just never experienced any negativity.

@Vivaci Yes I can see the anonymity concerning friends and family...work and so on. For me, there isn't anything here that I want to keep from them and the chances of them running across it is is minimal.🙂

@ravenwind43 Lucky you! In that case I would also have shared more freely. 😊

@Vivaci There are a few things it would be better for them not to read but again, the chances are very minimal they are going to run across it anyway.

@ravenwind43 ☺️ oh I'm also not afraid of them reading my posts. That's for public and I stand by my truth. 💞

@Vivaci My life is one of solitude. I work alone. It's more likely someone I know online would read my stuff versus offline.

@ravenwind43 That's something I can't even imagine. Most of the times, when I'm sharing my Snapchat pics, I pray that my son's friends parents are not here or teachers. I used to volunteer during weekends and holidays so they know me quite well. 😅😆🤭

@Vivaci I didn't want this solitude but it has mostly found me, one way or another:)

@ravenwind43 As long as you're comfortable with your choices, it's all good! 💞😊

@Vivaci Not at all. It's how it is at the moment.

@ravenwind43 Life in transition is also good coz it helps us to rest, recuperate, and prepare for our next adventure. ✨🤷

@Vivaci I am grieving and I am stuck. Honestly I shouldn't even be on here right now because I am struggling hard. Going to log off I think.

@ravenwind43 Some people think our solitary life is a choice. In one way it is, but it’s really a choice that we didn’t welcome or actually want. It just sort of happened.

I can choose to go out to an event with people I have no rapport or common interests with, or I can stay home. Most times, I choose home because I can feel more lonely with incompatible people in a social setting than I do on my own.
Those who say, “then meet people who share your interests,” don’t understand that’s it’s far more complicated than this, as well as actually finding any. It takes a great deal of effort, and to be honest, my mental and emotional energy reserves are low as it is.

@ravenwind43 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 Oh Raven, my heart is sad for you. Many hugs and love for you, my friend. Rest and preserve your energy. 🙏💕

I'm really sorry for what you're going through...

I've been there for many years myself. 😢

All I can say is that all these emotions are v important to get out of depression. Feel the low, accept it, embrace it, and only then you will heal. If you avoid these lows now, they will come back in 3 /5/7 years....I've studied bout this during my Masters...so I know what I'm talking about.
Heal yourself by being social, and also walking along watersides
..like beaches, lakes...etc. Water purifies our aura and heals us faster. @Carissimi @ravenwind43

@Vivaci No, dear, with the greatest respect, everyone is an individual, and deals with grief and depression in their own way. It was impossible for me to be social before 12-months ago. I couldn’t even think straight, or get myself out of the door let alone have the energy to socialize. It all comes down to energy. You either have it, or you don’t. Even thinking can be draining on a person in depression and/or grief.
Some who are extrovert by nature may find socializing helps, but not introverts.

@Carissimi Thank you. Years of caregiving and then the loss of my son is creating this solitude. I don't mind it sometimes as I am a bit of an introvert, but I also recognize that for me being with others and socializing would feel good as well. I have become a social cripple of sorts....to many years of it. I was working on that prior to my son passing and the grief hasn't not helped the situation. I do feel stuck.

@Vivaci I do push myself but some days are more difficult than others. I wouldn't call it depression per say...its mostly grief processing and some anxiety. Thank you for commenting🙂

@ravenwind43 I understand. I was stuck for a very long time. Slowly, and in your own time, you will become unstuck. You are dealing with more than one thing that caused you to be stuck. Your caregiving years, which is usually exhausting, and the loss of your son. I also recall you were dealing with other stresses in the past. Each event compounds on the others, and the grief is the worst of it. Allow yourself to be stuck...for now. It’s normal. You can only deal with so much pain at a time. Eventually, things will come to you, ideas, opportunities, and one day you will realize you are a little bit more unstuck than you were 6-months ago.

@Carissimi You're right bout coping mechanisms by introverts and extroverts...and hence time taken to overcome any setback varies from person to person. 👍🤗💞

@ravenwind43 Very sorry for your loss, Raven....😣😣😣😣