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I Have Low Self Esteem

When someone makes you a criticism or a comment towards an aspect or issue in your persona (skill, behaviour...) and it has to be with something you don't like in yourself, you have a fear about it and even you can't accept in yourself. I used to get all sad, and deeply low and of course, hide in my shell and avoid the situation. Not shocked bc it's something you already know and try to overcome it but you can't. It's one of your first fear and you try deeply to keep up or at least, do things mor茅 or less normal so people don't gonna find out this deep insecurity.
What's the sane way to face it?
Apart from asking for professional aid. I already have been doing it for many years and it didn't change the way I see myself. Not bc of the therapy. I guess that I'm a bad patient and I doubt it could be possible to change what you are.

At least, how do you face to these situations? What do you think? How do you react? Which strategies you use?
My last shrink told me: I already taught you lots of tools. You have many tools now. But, I can't avoid to feel myself over and over again tiny as hell. Criticisms, comments only validate what I already know.
Novaturient8141-45, F
I try to be straight up with my flaws.

Puts people in a corner.

The more you talk about it the less power it has over you.

People are always gonna talk and judge.

And We have to learn to live with it.

I try to keep an open mind. It is what it is.

Keep positive. 馃
cycleman61-69, M
@Novaturient81 So key "Keep Positive"
cycleman61-69, M
I am my own worst critic of myself. I used to pay attention to what one of my sisters said of me all the time. Which I basically accepted and used as an excuse not to do so much I should've and could've done.
I no longer have any contact with her. I am making lots of steps in proceeding. I am doing in small steps. I am not just diving into horrible situations and expecting others to take what I'm delivering. I am just telling myself, I am not Wrong. Nor am I doing anything in a wrong manner. Well maybe the critics can mention a few, but I know they don't know diddly! :)
twistermind51-55, F
@cycleman Many times it鈥檚 not people鈥檚 fault. In the end, we all judge and can talk more than we should sometimes. Sometimes, these coments remove something inside you and you know.
It seems you are doing a good job. Congratulations!
Other people are always going to have criticisms and comments. All this really does is feed their own egos which help to hide their own deficiencies. You have to build a shell of a wall around you to learn to not react to their criticism. Easier said than done, I know. But it's the best way to get over how others treat you.
Novaturient8141-45, F
@allsfinebime2 Well said, guy. 馃憦馃憦馃憦
twistermind51-55, F
@allsfinebime2 I tried it but I can鈥檛 avoid feeling affected.
@twistermind Well I know that it's not an easy thing to be able to do. But when you are pushed so many times, eventually you have to draw a line in the sand as well as fight those whom choose to cross it to do you harm.
clamenza56-60, M
Dont let it bother you. Do something to face this fear and try get over it. Confidence is the key
twistermind51-55, F
@clamenza It鈥檚 the only way. I sometimes feel strong enough to do it but you can count these ocassions with the fingers of a single hand. Most of the time, I lack the energy.
clamenza56-60, M
@twistermind I wouldn鈥檛 waste the energy on it either. I just usually don鈥檛 pay attention to it

 
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