How do you differentiate being in love with someone to being infatuated or just simply liking someone?
Sometimes I think I'm in love with him then I ask myself if I just simply like im since I'm clueless about this stuff and all.
26-30, F
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Daisydais
That is a very good question LavenderHart. It's a great place you're in....questioning yourself....it means you don't take love lightly and you don't take the love that people give you lightly either. I can give you some general answers but ultimately you are the only that can truthfully answer the question. Usually, if it's true love, there will be a calm or peace that usually is not seen in infatuation. Both ways you'll most likely want to be with the person all the time. Go to bed thinking about them...wake up thinking about them...etc. But with infatuation it will feel more like a deep craving that inhibits most or even all other aspects of your life. In love it will enhance rather than inhibit. Keep asking yourself lots of questions like: Am I a better person or a worse person when I'm around him? Do I think about more than just sexual things when around him? Do I see us still together a year from now? And you should also ask yourself the most basic of questions too....that most people leave out because they always think it'll just work it's self out....it doesn't. Does he have the same beliefs as you? How to treat people: strangers, family, friends. Would he cheat on a test or lie to get out of trouble? Does he have the same morals and values that you have? Important questions even at a young age. Good Luck. and you can ask me anything you want and any time.
LavenderHart009 · 26-30, F
I've known him for years but we don't really interact with each other much. We probably have different outlook regarding a lot of things.... which is normal for me. There are times when me and my friends also have different beliefs but I just simply accept them because it's what pronounces their individuality.
Anyway, how I feel is a bit different compared to others I guess. I'm not really one to interact with the opposite sex much...same with interacting with someone of the same gender so I can't be too sure. We also don't interact much and haven't seen each other for years already. It's just plain weird how...happy and content....for lack of better word...I feel just by simply exchanging short conversations in FB. He's also the only person who managed to somehow deviate my anger even if my friends couldn't. He's definitely someone special to me. Just to what degree...I'mnot really sure.
Anyway, how I feel is a bit different compared to others I guess. I'm not really one to interact with the opposite sex much...same with interacting with someone of the same gender so I can't be too sure. We also don't interact much and haven't seen each other for years already. It's just plain weird how...happy and content....for lack of better word...I feel just by simply exchanging short conversations in FB. He's also the only person who managed to somehow deviate my anger even if my friends couldn't. He's definitely someone special to me. Just to what degree...I'mnot really sure.
Daisydais
Sounds like you just need time to figure it out. You don't have to figure it all out right now....unless there's a third party in either your life or his that demands you decide. Just keep asking yourself questions and one day it'll just feel right to either just be friends or to be closer. Just be patient with the situation.
LavenderHart009 · 26-30, F
I just think that I'm taking too long to figure it out... I've been trying to figure it out for around five years I guess....
BATOVN
love is a CHOICE....not a feeling or an emotion.....to learn to love someone , you must chose to care unconditionally ....faults and all and be willing to BOTH let the other see you good points and your faults....love is when you can see all of that and accept it and still not be able to imagine your life without that person
Daisydais
absolutely....well put.
Draca137
love is the choice you make to stick by a person when things get hard. Infatuation is the little butterflies in your stomach every time they text.
shadyshadow
I think love is a feeling. It's your choice whether or not you want to follow thru on that feeling.
LilAnnie
Time will help tell the difference. That's why engagement periods are such a great idea.
DeIuxedEdition
Because you will know. You won't be indecisive or unsure if it is love
Unlearn
You're confused...
LavenderHart009 · 26-30, F
Yep. I am. For years already.