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One of the girls at MY baby shower tagged me in a congratulatory post on Facebook 😟

Was I wrong to remove the tag?


The only people who know I’m pregnant are the people I’ve personally seen (as in, in person) my close circle, people who’ve bothered to make time in their lives for my family and us to hang out.
That’s 2 of the football moms and their very close relatives (the girls moms and one of the girls brothers)
These two girls and their families have been good friends of ours for 4yrs now, we’ve literally taken a few weekend vacations together

The third girl did not know I was pregnant (the one who posted my news on Facebook)

Other people who know
My oldest sons best friends moms; because their sons have been allowed to go no where during COVID except my house so the moms have seen me during drop off/pick up

My mom and mother in law
My brother
My husbands brother

And only 1 of my aunts (my moms oldest sister)


I have 5 other aunts and uncles on my moms side who have zero clue I’m pregnant, my entire dads family doesn’t know I’m pregnant, and my husbands dad and his extended family also does not know I’m pregnant heck not even my husbands sisters know I’m pregnant!!!


I feel bad that I removed the tag but like I was clear today that we haven’t made the pregnancy public knowledge.

When she showed up she said “what a well kept secret!” I said “thank you we hope to keep it that way for 4 more weeks until we can announce the arrival of our healthy baby boy”


I mean I thought that was clear enough. I didn’t even allow my mom to throw me a baby shower 🥺


I was super touched one of my close fiends did my second friend also helped and the hosts mom and sister were there. And obviously their husbands but these are the only people I’ve seen during this pregnancy.

Literally no one else knew

Am I wrong for concealing my pregnancy from the rest of the world? (Only other people who know I’m pregnant don’t personal know me, like the cashier at the grocery store & my neighbors)
Fuck that shit, I hate that any1 can tag you in anything at any time & that's considered normal behavior
marsbar · F
If you made it clear to her that you didn’t want others to know until the baby is born, then yes, she never should’ve posted that, & you were right to take it down.
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
@mysteryespresso if I lose this friend who I’m not particularly close to to begin with that’s ok

I have very toxic family members that I would prefer to keep my pregnancy from
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
@marsbar thanks hun. I feel better deleting the tag. The post can stay up I don’t really care if other football parents know because they’re not all aware of my history.


It’s more our family members I’m concerned with, they’re very negative and I don’t want those vibes around me, the baby or my family. I don’t want to be grilled about why we tried again or anything like that. I don’t want to have to explain myself to anyone.

Football parents will just congratulate us and move on our family members will fixate on it 🤦🏻‍♀️
marsbar · F
@KaysHealingPath Then you did the right thing. Hope you & baby are continuing to do well. 💜
Classified · M
It's your child and if she knows it should remain a secret then it's at best clumsy she tagged you in such a post.
Removing the tag is normal imo.
I know people in my own family who are being kept out of the loop with certain secrets, because they are expected not to be able to keep silent long enough.
toddr13 · 46-50, M
Facebook drama! One reason why I avoid it. :) However, you are correct because she had no right to broadcast the fact that you are expecting to anyone other than those to whom you wished to tell. She did not respect your wishes, and if she says anything tell her that you don't want it publicized because carrying the child is stressful enough right now and you need to be well rested for the delivery date, not dealing with a million well wishers who will be calling, texting, contacting you on Facebook, etc. The information is embargoed until after you deliver the child, then she is free to congratulate you in public.
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
@toddr13 thank you!
Especially considering I’ve lost so many pregnancies trying for baby #3 I don’t want to deal with the negativity or questions or comments about it
toddr13 · 46-50, M
@KaysHealingPath And you don’t need the stress. She should respect that.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Thoroughly thoughtless in my opinion.

Why won’t people mind their own business ?

The news is yours to give, if and when you decide to actually give it !
Poppies · 61-69, F
You were not wrong! It is certainly your choice to control who you want to share your news with and when.
SW-User
Ugh, Facebook 😑.. I'd have done the same, that's all I can say
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
I kept my pregnancy a secret too 🤷🏼‍♀️
[quote] Was I wrong to remove the tag?[/quote]

[b]Nope[/b].

I [u]ALWAYS[/u] remove tags routinely.

I value my privacy...
[quote]One of the girls at the baby shower tagged me in a congratulatory post on Facebook 😟
Was I wrong to remove the tag?
[/quote]

they might feel offended, Some people think their babies are very important. if i was you, I'd leave that tag there.
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
@mysteryespresso it’s MY baby
Not hers so to me it’s offensive she’s publicizing my NOT so public pregnancy
@KaysHealingPath facebook is real people can't block them like you do on sw.

i don't know how to deal with this situation. I don't remember last time I used fb
Zonuss · 41-45, M
No. Do what you feel is best for you. Its your life. Not theirs. 🙂
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
You were clear so there is no problem with removing the tag.

 
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