I Am Single

Enough already ugh 😑! At first it was easy after being married so long to become single again. I got tired of the same old where I lived so I moved to a new city. Being single is what you make it I suppose. At my age it should be easy for me to reach out and meet men. For some reason I am very shy now and won’t even respond to invites. I wish I could just meet someone to pal around with and have a friend.
Hopefully one day I’ll meet someone and fall in love 😍

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SWisGoingWoke · M

It's not easy, but, the old adage "to have a friend, be a friend" never worked better than "post 50".

And besides, having a good friend, that might someday be a lover, is better than a lover that might someday be a friend!!!

SW-User

I've found that just finding friends is extremely difficult since i've become single at my age. While i was married, everyone in town was too and there were couples everywhere that were wanting friendships with other couples. But suddenly being single i found that those couples and families aren't interested in a single as a friend.. makes sense now that i think about it. So it's like a whole new world, one which i really was hoping to avoid.

SazyGirl · 56-60, F

@SW-User your reply makes a lot of sense but I’m sure there’s someone for us out there 😀

SW-User

@SazyGirl Thanks for understanding and i agree! 😊

MarkA · 56-60, M

I hope you find someone. You sound like a lady who cares and deserves to be happy. Fingers crossed for you

SazyGirl · 56-60, F

@MarkA thank you ! That was a nice comment

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1Dogma · F

@geoam1 very true. Being alone is a comfort zone tho we miss at some point the idea of having someone. That thought makes us think if it's worth to try. Trying can bring us pain. That halts us to step forward.

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SazyGirl · 56-60, F

I’m told by my friends l I look much younger. I’m told I have a bubbly personality. I’m told if I put myself out there I would probly be remarried by now. Well what advice my friends have Not given me is how do you put your wall down and try again? What’s the first step lol! I guess at any age you run into someone with chemistry or you don’t.

SWisGoingWoke · M

@SazyGirl Very true...nothing ventured, nothing gained. You'll never "run into" anyone if you're not putting yourself in their path first. (I have LOTS of pithy quotes I made up! lol)

But seriously, the mental image you have of yourself is vital to having success in finding someone. You can try to make adjustments to your attitude "on the fly" but typically that won't work well and it will end up causing problems.

Do some soul-searching and be brutally honest with yourself, then stick your chin out there and be positive in your attitude...positive about yourself and positive that there IS someone somewhere that will make you smile more than you ever thought you could.

SazyGirl · 56-60, F

Very well said! My girlfriend said I don’t pay attention any more? I said what are you talking about? So she put me to a test. We were at a public place and she said as you walk passed all these strangers down this isle look back and see what happens? Ok I walked down the isle way towards the dance area stopped and looked back. What I saw were men looking. I told my girlfriend and she said exactly so if you walk slower and say hello when you look and make eye contact you’ll be good!

SWisGoingWoke · M

@SazyGirl All true.
I think our biggest problem is that we know ourselves too well. We know our faults and weaknesses and we know our failures. And we often define ourselves by those qualities, while tossing in a few "but, I like puppies, too" just to make it seem 'balanced'. lol

Bottom line, if you genuinely try to care about other people (the special person in your life) AND you aren't a narcissist most of your waking moments, AND you try once in a while to express your care to that "someone else" in your life, THEN you'll be doing better than about 90% of the adults walking around trying to figure out what life is all about.

1Dogma · F

Never say never.
Good luck.
Love in golden years could be more shimmering, shining & splendid.

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