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Can being a hardworking overachiever backfire on you?

Mostly I obtain everything I want through blood, sweat and tears. I've done things that people are amazed at how I can do it and telling me how smart, blah blah I am or how diligent. I take pride in never giving up and working for what I want. But something about the way that Ive been going about it all my life has me really worn down. Less time for social stuff, others around you becoming lazier because you always pick up the slack. Some goals are actually not met due to fatigue or paralysis due to imperfections.

If so what are ways to reverse the bad aspects of a normally celebrated trait.
Tatsumi · 31-35, M
Panic attacks from overwork. So, basically, if you don't mind feeling like you're about to fucking die 8 times a day, it's fine.

Take a vacation. That's what I think is the best cure. I get it; I've been trying to push myself as hard as I can, but my stupid body won't listen. >:| So, I think giving it a break is the best thing, and learning how to integrate down time into your schedule, too.

You can gain more efficiency by doing less. For instance, if you concentrate for an hour, you lose like 50% of your concentration from then on. So you have to take a 10-15 minute break after an hour, and you'll get way more done than if you worked through two hours with no break.
@Tatsumi I've always been an over achiever and have never had panic attacks or only short times of stress.
Tatsumi · 31-35, M
@Callmewhatyouwill Well congra-tu-fucking-lations. I wasn't saying that always happens any time anyone overworks.

Some people are just designed to work constantly. Most people aren't. And I sure as hell am not.
It's probably better to be an over-achieving teacher and guide, to bring others around you along with you. If you don't, you'll be the only one you can trust to do it right...and thoroughly exhausted.,You can still achieve a lot, as the team leader, and not the only dog pulling the sled.
twmdc · 36-40, M
You'll likely become the one people rely on as an overachiever. However, some folks take unfair advantage of that dedication.
We are much the same, I was a marketing director fora hospital district and drove my staff crazy because I can't do anything on a small scale everything has to be an extravaganza.

I actually won the Ca. Health Dept. competition for "Best Practices" and gave talks in major cities of Ca. It took it's toll on me and finally retired. I still go overboard for an occaisional party at home.
I don't think it's bad. But I'm the same way.

Either way you're sacrificing something. The question is what are you willing to sacrifice and for how long to live how you want.
TexChik · F
Nothing wrong with a hard working over achiever...I try to hire that type of person when ever I find one.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
Wow.. I've had similar experiences. I worked hard in school, straight A student. Did all my work, went to class all the time, at one point had 4.0 gpa...it didn't get me much more than had i just made C's all the way thru.
I used to be real loyal to work and wear myself out. Now, if i need a day off, i take it and dont worry about them being short staffed. I've been short before. Need to stop being so hard on ourselves
Fernie · F
That's nice
SW-User
It can

 
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