Lesbian Question.
First: I mean no offense with this question. Right. I want to know why some Lesbians purposely have a butch look. Because of this look it becomes apparent that they are lesbian and not feminine. they are still women.Yes?
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CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M
I am not a lesbian, or a woman. But I have friends who are butch. The butch look is not an expression of gender, just that this person feels most comfortable with a masculine look. But butch women are still very much women and not men. Being a lesbian means you're attracted to women, right?
yes, thatwhy I was confused, don;t they want to be more femnine ?
CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M
Nope, the thing is our genders/sexualities are complicated. We think there's rules, but all the rules are false - we just have norms, and peopel go outside those norms. So there's your expression of masculinity/femininity. I mean, there are straight women who wear jeans and t-shirts and don't like pink - that's a kind of masculine express, but they're very much into guys. Or there are men who behave and dress in a feminine manner while still being men who like women. Butch lesbians are just another way all these 'norms' get mixed up. You get women, who are attracted to women, but who prefer to dress and act in a masculine fashion.
Hell, I have a friend who is born male, identifies as female, but prefers to dress in a masculine fashion. So she KNOWS she is a woman and has had surgery.. but prefers jeans and t-shirts to makeup and dresses.
Hell, I have a friend who is born male, identifies as female, but prefers to dress in a masculine fashion. So she KNOWS she is a woman and has had surgery.. but prefers jeans and t-shirts to makeup and dresses.
@TyphoidJerry: But why do some women want to be more feminine while still being lesbian ?
CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M
Honestly, it's just how they feel. They want to be feminine, while some want to be masculine. So the femme/butch dynamic exists and is pretty common. There's probably culture stuff (like how we expect a masculine/feminine entity in a household) that may influence that, but we're dealing with stuff beyond my pay grade. AFAIK, it's just how people are. The big thing is our expectations are simple, and reality is complicated.