Should people have some experiences
before marrying someone? I say this having married the first man that touched me sexually
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"Should" is strictly a matter for your own values.
There is a tendency for people who have never had another partner to wonder what they might have missed out on,
and what all the fuss is about in love songs, myths, literature, film, and advertising.
You can get a more realistic idea of other people's sex lives by reading Masters and Johnson, Kinsey, and Shere Hite, or by attending one of Brad Blanton's (extremely expensive) workshops in Radical Honesty.
The unfortunate truth is that most people's sex and love lives are fraught with chronic dissatisfaction and disappointment. This creates a tendency to wonder if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. It may look that way but, when or if you get there, you discover that the variations make no significant difference. But the process is virtually guaranteed to end in bitter pain for all concerned.
The best way to create a really satisfying relationship is to work on being and becoming the best lover you can be to your partner. And that means in day to day communications as well as in your physical intimacy.
This starts with taking responsibility for being able to satisfy oneself, then knowing your likes and dislikes and being able to communicate them (without criticism), and getting your partner to communicate his or hers. Ideally it should include an open approach.
Try not to get stuck in a repetitive template for the most efficient and quickest way to get to the minimum level satisfaction, for that is the mistake most long-term couples make, especially when career and family begin to impact on how much time they have alone.
There is a tendency for people who have never had another partner to wonder what they might have missed out on,
and what all the fuss is about in love songs, myths, literature, film, and advertising.
You can get a more realistic idea of other people's sex lives by reading Masters and Johnson, Kinsey, and Shere Hite, or by attending one of Brad Blanton's (extremely expensive) workshops in Radical Honesty.
The unfortunate truth is that most people's sex and love lives are fraught with chronic dissatisfaction and disappointment. This creates a tendency to wonder if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. It may look that way but, when or if you get there, you discover that the variations make no significant difference. But the process is virtually guaranteed to end in bitter pain for all concerned.
The best way to create a really satisfying relationship is to work on being and becoming the best lover you can be to your partner. And that means in day to day communications as well as in your physical intimacy.
This starts with taking responsibility for being able to satisfy oneself, then knowing your likes and dislikes and being able to communicate them (without criticism), and getting your partner to communicate his or hers. Ideally it should include an open approach.
Try not to get stuck in a repetitive template for the most efficient and quickest way to get to the minimum level satisfaction, for that is the mistake most long-term couples make, especially when career and family begin to impact on how much time they have alone.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
This is a very comprehensive and well thought out reply. I agree
@hartfire
You can throw a ton of tares to water but that doesn't mean they'll sink.
@hartfire
You can throw a ton of tares to water but that doesn't mean they'll sink.