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Women shouldnt marry men who are making less money than them, true or false ?

Here is my take. If a man is with a woman, and they are both in agreement about this, then it doesn't matter. Now some men do not like the idea of their woman making more money than them. I could be because of insecurity issues, or feeling inadequate. But that is another story to tell right there. Some woman may think its weak for a man to make less than them. Some enjoy the idea as it leaves them feeling independent and empowered.
What do you think. Should a woman marry a man if she is making more money than him. It that ok with you. ☺
sunrisehawk · 61-69, M
Makes no difference to a man who is doing their best. It isn't about the size of paycheck, it is about the two pooling their resources to make a life.

Been on both sides of this. Early in life, she made more than me, then it changed. The problems are when one or both start thinking of their paycheck as "their" money, not "our" money...
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@Greenbare my wife made the choice to not have children to put an end to a genetic disease that she has which will shorten her life.

is that reneging on the debt she owes her parents and her ancestors?
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@Greenbare it's a crap shoot. healthy children, carriers, or sick children.

one never knows why people do things.
Fantabulous · 46-50, F
I have earned more than my husband for many years, its comforting to know i can cover the bills but sometimes I wish he was the one earning more. So yes it is empowering to me but I liked when it felt like he could take care of things. I think it also made him feel more manly when he was earning more.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
Primnproper · 56-60, F
It's basically down to whether they can handle it and if they know they can't then they shouldn't even go there..
Zonuss · 41-45, M
@Primnproper @PrimnproperThank you. ☺
Salix75 · 46-50, F
Totally ok with me. I don't need/want a man to provide for, or keep me. I make my own money. So long as both parties in the couple are comfortable with things, then good.

Women shouldn't look to men to provide for them. Men shouldn't be forced into the role of breadwinner, or feel inadequate if they make less. If the imbalance is an issue, there are ways to shift the balance (e.g. you work part time and make less money? do a greater share of the housework)
Zonuss · 41-45, M
@Salix75Interesting. Roles are there because of our social constructs in this world. But there are some who believe that it is natural for a man to feel like he wants to provide and take care of a woman. And vice versa. ☺
Salix75 · 46-50, F
@Zonuss maybe so. A bit of column A and column B.

Some roles may be from evolutionary biology (larger males can protect - but even this isn't universal in nature), but others are certainly social constructs.

There's no evolutionary reason a woman can't go out and make a living. It used to be the case that women were dependent first on their fathers (or brothers if the father died) and later their husbands to have a place to live, food to eat etc.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
This totally depends on the man. If he is comfortable, so would I be.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
@SweetMaeThanks Mae. ☺
newgirl · 56-60, F
As long as he has a job, I'm good.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
@newgirlGreat.

 
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