I Need Advice On Relationships

I just wanted to give a few tips to men about how to chat with women online. From the messages I get I sometimes cringe at what I read. So I figure it may help a few people. Obviously, not all women will not agree with me here but I figure many will.

Here we go:
1. Stop with the superlatives. I'm not the prettiest/sexiest/hottest/cutest/(insert word)est woman you've ever seen. Any man that says these things I know wants only one thing, to get into your pants, which on the internet means see pics of you/nudes. Which leads to the next point.

2. Don't ask for pics too soon and don't send pics expecting someone to reciprocate. Asking too soon just shows what you are really after and its usually not to be friends.

3. Be the one to keep the conversation engaging and don't ask vague questions. Some of the most annoying questions I get are so vague. This might just be me, but I will purposefully not put time into answering the question because it was just a poorly asked question.

For now that's all I've got.

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Extant1 · M

Hmm...

You throw me a little here!

First off I’m not sure those superlatives would be given unless they did in fact see you. Seems odd to use those on an unseen person.

Second, it completely robs a man that might very well mean it! You could very well be the prettiest to him, seems cruel to rob him of the ability to say so.

Third, it’s hard to ask direct questions of someone you don’t know yet, or are trying to get to know. Direct questions are usually relegated to those that have developed a relationship and rapport

And finally...not trying to be an ass here, but if it is indeed his responsibility to keep the conversation engaging, may I ask what your responsibility is???
Or do you simply bear no responsibility at all??
And if you bear no responsibility, and it’s all on him to be engaging, never use superlatives, never ask to see a woman....(this is a guy after all)

Exactly what on earth would he be there for????

queenchloe · 22-25, F

@Extant1 Women get superlatives all the time and we know its BS. its one thing to hear it from a lover but I personally cringe whenever someone who is hitting on me uses them cause I know they will just turn around and say the same things to another girl.

I just want questions to be more specific. Instead of asking hey what do you like?(which I get asked all the time) Be more specific.

I prefer having the man be the one engaging the conversation especially when they initiated it.

Extant1 · M

@queenchloe I have to completely concur with those comments...

Very solid!!😘🥃🥃🥃