I Have Family Members That Get On My Nerves

So earlier today when I first woke up, I went shopping to grab a few items for my Dad. We live in the city, so depending on the neighborhood, some stores can be just a walk away. When I come back, I forgot one item. All of a sudden, my Dad gets all mad and distant with me because of the situation. I offered to go back and grab it, and he said "I wouldn't want to trouble you." I told him it wouldn't be troubling me at all, but still insisted I didn't go. Later on, he confronts me about how "I need to think about other peoples' feelings." His reasoning was that "If I forgot something, I should automatically just go back and get it instead of asking if I should." Later on, while I'm going to grab a water bottle, he then decides to talk with me more about the subject. He then went on about how me going to a football game with my mother and her boyfriend speaks about "my loyalty to him and my brother."

In my honest opinion... this is ridiculous. Because first of all, I offered to go back and he said No. Not asked, OFFERED. Secondly, how does going to a football game with my mom have ANYTHING to do with my loyalty to my dad and brother? If they still have something against my mom, (Which they do) they shouldn't make it my problem. That's more their problem than mine. But they still single me out for it.

I'm honestly just sick of my Dad and Brother singling me out at times because of how I live my life. They judge me more than anyone ever has. They act like anybody who's even RELATED to my mom is the scum of the earth. Am I the only person who feels like this is wrong?? They just slap a label on people they don't like. I'm not like that... used to be, but I eventually grew up.

What happened with my mom is complicated, but we haven't been close for many years until last yearish. I made one little effort to stay in contact, and we've been developing a normal, healthy mother/son relationship ever since. But to my dad, that isn't enough. He feels that until she takes on most of his responsibilities, she will never be redeemed in his eyes. Furthermore, he even goes as far as to say I have "a need for her love." That's not even close to true. I've gotten used to her absence a long time ago. If it was a need, I'd treat it like a need. But I only see my mom once, sometimes twice a week. Some weeks not at all. So.. I'm pretty sure it's not a need in any sense of the word.

The truth of the matter is, my mom is not a bad person. Yes, she's made some bad mistakes. But holding onto a grudge won't bring you anywhere in life. And you know what? Her boyfriend (who she basically left my dad for) is not a bad man at all, either. They're nice, quiet, peaceful people like myself. My dad just defines them as scum because of what happened all those years ago. He doesn't even look at it logically. Mostly... He just doesn't listen to [b]me[/b]. He looks at it the way he wants to look at it, believes what he wants to believe.. With some people, there simply just isn't anything you can do about that.

Sorry if this was a bit of a rant. It's been bothering me all day..