Wonder why you haven't responded to my messages?

absolutely

I clearly can agree
It is most important that the kids have a loving and caring discipline

Well yes but teaching them right from wrong and the wrong actions have consequences and they must be responsible for there actions

as it should be well done

I wish more parents would be like you. Loving, caring, guiding, with a cane ready for when punishment is needed.

To me what you described above is just what a loving parent does. A strict parent is one that doesn't allow rules to be bent in the slightest. An overly strict parent is one that makes rules that serves no purpose that to cause the child to fail at keeping them.

I totally agree with you. There is lots of nonsense these days about letting children find their own boundaries but life is not like that. It's poor parenting not to have rules and consequences for them

Agreed. I might also add that you don't allow excuses to get in the way of what should be done.

I think strict equals love

Well said.

That's what it's about right across the animal kingdom. Shame some humans don't know this.

I think it means setting clear and firm boundaries to keep them safe and behaving well and disciplining them for breaking those boundaries.

i was strict with my kids but spanking was always the last resort and if they did get one it was hard so they never did it again

That was also my definition of being a father. I was strict with my son, too, but only because I loved him and really cared for him.

Best wishes to Czech from Berlin! Agree with your opinions very much. You use rakoskou? Helen

@Resided, how do you know what kind of example they are setting as parent from the few words in her post ? ?

My kids and their friends said this often when they were growing up ... now they all so thankful we were ....

Well said. All things have to be taken in context of course... but yes, do the right thing for their future development.

You have to be these days, one day they'll thank you for it! :)

My kids love their step-mom...and she is rather more strict that I am... but she cares for them sooo well... that they just love her!

i think all kids would

Well at least they might have some manners before they leave,manners make the man.😊