Would you care if a coworker said something about you to new coworker, and now the person no longer speaks to you?

It's so stupid that you don't even get a change. People go by what they hear instead of getting to know a person themselves.

Both of these people actually work in the next department.
I saw the New Girl yesterday at the time clock so I simply said 'hello, how are you'.
She returned the gesture.
Later yesterday, I saw the new girl with a chick that I am cordial to, whisper something to the new chick, who quickly turned and looked at me (I was the only one there) so it was very obvious whatever was said was about me.

I come in today, and the new chick looks at me and turns her head in passing.

people are so stupid to me.

Would you quit talking to them both? Or continue speaking like it never happened.?

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curiosi · 61-69, F

I would continue as if it never happened. In this way the idiot who listened to the other idiot will hopefully feel stupid.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@curiosi Only reason I speak to the whisperer, is because she's always with another co-worker (different department) who I speak to and think it's friendly. So when I see them together, I'd say hey yall, as opposed to 'Hey Tia' (which is the one I speak to) . I think it's rude. So then when I'd see the whisperer alone, in passing, I'd say goodmorning etc. She seems standoffish (before this incident) ...

So you'd just continue?

Like I said, the new chick walked past me, stared at me then looked away. I said nothing, and didn't smile. I already knew that's how i'd go on today , which is the next day

curiosi · 61-69, F

@iamnikki I don't blame you I wouldn't go out of my way for the whisperer, don't need to be bothered. As for the other one I would proceed with caution as if she is that weak she listens to the whisperer, she probably isn't someone I care to get close too. I would be polite just to show them how wrong they are.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@curiosi sorry , I meant i knew thats how it would go today.
And the only things I can think that she is that I'm always trying to talk to her (again being frienly) or that I seem lonely or sad, which is true. I don't care. People dont' last at this job anyway.

Annii

I’d continue to be cordial and say hello to both, communicate as though nothing happened. No sense in spending any time with people that don’t deserve yours. Live with class and grace. Btw are there any workplace violence/harassment/bullying policies at your work site? What happened to you is workplace bullying.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Annii Nah, it's not bullying. Only reason I spoke is because I like to be cordial, especially if I know you're new. It wasn't welcoming when I started. I've always been that way. Hated being new in school so I'd be first to talk to new kids etc.

Annii

It is where I work, even someone rolling their eyes in a meeting when someone is talking is included. As well as ostracizing people. When behaviours like this go unchecked workplace culture gets bad - I walked into a “renewal” because it got to the point where female staffers were sexually assaulted by their bosses. Just saying. @iamnikki

Eddiesolds · 61-69, M

It's like that where I work. Fuckin retards

xixgun · M

“Fuck ‘em”

Catzgano · 31-35, F

Just put them both on blast.

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