If you were in a room with 100 people, would you be able to pick out which ones were the youngest in their families?
If so, how? What kinds of behaviors, and traits, would you pick up on?
I've heard (and read) that we tend to subconsciously re-create the environment that we grew up in (whether we want to or not), and I think that's probably true of most people, except for those who have an especially high level of self-awareness.
I'm the youngest in my family. While I know that there are good things about this, it's not all that it's cracked up to be. I often feel like I'm not taken very seriously, by people I meet in person and sometimes by people I talk to on the phone. Some people do take me seriously and treat me with respect, but some people seem to see me as a helpless, adorable little moron. I sometimes feel like I have a sign on me somewhere that says, "Don't listen to me, I don't know what I'm talking about and I don't have anything important to say anyway." But I don't know where this sign is on me, so I can't take it off. That might sound strange, but that's how I feel sometimes.
This makes me especially grateful for the internet, where I don't have this problem at all. Here, people just focus on what I'm saying, because that's really all they have to go on. So, in a way, people I talk to on the internet actually know me better than people I meet in person, because they aren't making snap judgments based on what they would see, if they could see me. I'm so glad that I have friends here who actually listen to me and respect me. <3
But back to the subject at hand. There must be something that I'm saying, or doing, or some kind of vibe that I'm giving off, that makes some people see me as less competent. But I have no idea what it is. So I'm curious, what kinds of things do you notice that tell you that someone is a youngest child, and how does that affect your attitude toward them? Do you think that most youngest children probably struggle with this?
I've heard (and read) that we tend to subconsciously re-create the environment that we grew up in (whether we want to or not), and I think that's probably true of most people, except for those who have an especially high level of self-awareness.
I'm the youngest in my family. While I know that there are good things about this, it's not all that it's cracked up to be. I often feel like I'm not taken very seriously, by people I meet in person and sometimes by people I talk to on the phone. Some people do take me seriously and treat me with respect, but some people seem to see me as a helpless, adorable little moron. I sometimes feel like I have a sign on me somewhere that says, "Don't listen to me, I don't know what I'm talking about and I don't have anything important to say anyway." But I don't know where this sign is on me, so I can't take it off. That might sound strange, but that's how I feel sometimes.
This makes me especially grateful for the internet, where I don't have this problem at all. Here, people just focus on what I'm saying, because that's really all they have to go on. So, in a way, people I talk to on the internet actually know me better than people I meet in person, because they aren't making snap judgments based on what they would see, if they could see me. I'm so glad that I have friends here who actually listen to me and respect me. <3
But back to the subject at hand. There must be something that I'm saying, or doing, or some kind of vibe that I'm giving off, that makes some people see me as less competent. But I have no idea what it is. So I'm curious, what kinds of things do you notice that tell you that someone is a youngest child, and how does that affect your attitude toward them? Do you think that most youngest children probably struggle with this?
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