What is the deal with middle aged gay men? Theyre merciless if you get on the wrong side of them. Still acting like the snarky mean girl highschool t

A lot of the ones I know are so bitter and snappy. They really think being a catty snarky queen is the way to be. I'm a middle aged gay man myself and I never understood how someone my age really thinks acting like a highschool mean girl is a good quality to have.