When it comes down to it..:

Beautiful. Connection overrides physical features. I learned for myself.

@TheLoveAge: Still, it doesn't hurt to be fit. Before I started working out, I was invisible. No one was willing to take a risk. Now at least I can cast a bigger net. I still might never find love, but at least I stand a chance

@HalfCactus: Oh, I meant I had to accept things about him. Sorry to confuse. The connection was powerful so it didn't take much time to work through my ignorance. It was convoluted how things happened and kept happening but I learned depth.

@TheLoveAge: Ah, I see. It's a good lesson to learn. I find that a lot of young women have specific lists about what they're looking for in a man, but they focus on superficial traits and always seem to overlook compatibility. As a man that's hoping to date, it's pretty frustrating. It would be nice if more people understood the same

@HalfCactus: I didn't know I was superficial as I was when I discovered those photos. I was actually really disappointed with myself because I always thought of myself as pretty open minded and didnt have a particular type. I didn't have any wish list or anything, lol. But luckily I was honest with myself and took time to understand the deeper importance. This was about i'd say a year and a half ago now? I've made a lot of progress in myself since then. I know what time it is, lol. And still a work in progress but I'm wiser now. I have no lists although some have told me to rethink this. I just look for the connection and I think the rest will work itself out. It's what I'm going with💕

@TheLoveAge: Life throws a lot at us that we don't always know how to handle. Growth comes from having the courage to work through those things instead of running away. It's what I'm trying to do now.

But I like your strategy. It's why I'm here, honestly. I realize that to find a person I can connect with, it's a good idea to find someone with similar tendencies, and I have a tendency to spend exorbitant amounts of time online. I wanted to be done for good with sites like this one since I saw it as a time suck that was keeping me from growing, but I realize that the likelihood of finding a meaningful connection here is far better than it is out there. At least for me anyway. I haven't had too many opportunities, but I'm hoping that as time goes on that will change for me

@HalfCactus: It's why I found EP because I needed to have connections in my life. I found awesome people that I still talk to today. And met really nice people here too. I like the diversity.

@TheLoveAge: Yeah, I spent 3.5 years on EP before it led to a bout of unrequited love and I deleted my profile in frustration. I knew from a friend I met there that this site was up, but I was hesitant in joining until about a month ago. I tried to find my way out in the "real world", but conversations are pretty underwhelming without the safety of anonymity here. I may only have one friend left from those days, but I still value those connections more than anything else I've had. I'm hoping to establish more of the same here, but I think I need to write more stories and stuff to facilitate that. Guess I'll find out soon