What did she do to you, that hurt you so badly?

@LadyGrace after she died
there was a picture of me
on the back she wrote

love you very very much

nothing more needs to be said

@butterflymind1 I'm so sorry. If she didn't, that didn't mean you ARE a weird person, nor was it profitable to label yourself as such. That meant that she had problems she did not know how to deal with in her own personal life. She only did what she knew to do at the time. She was trying to survive day to day, herself, from problems in her past.

When you know better, you do better. Her problems had nothing to do with you, or loving you. She had deeper issues, which caused you to feel less, because she was so wrapped up in herself and trying to cope each day, that's all she could deal with at the time, which in turn, caused her to neglect you. Not purposely, but emotionally. Her problems had nothing to do with you. You've always been good enough, just the way you are.

@butterflymind1 That's what I'm saying. She loved you with all her heart, that is obvious. She just didn't know how to help herself resolve her past issues. My sincerest, deepest condolences.

The best way you can honor her, believe it or not, is not to close yourself off from others, but give others the love you never received, and help others have a voice in their feelings, like you couldn't have. That is so important. Give yourself [u]and[/u] others, the love you never felt you had.

Be your own best friend. Love and respect yourself enough, to make the right decisions. That's what she would want. People are starving for love and it can start with you. People need you, because now you have the gift of understanding. When you help others, you heal yourself. Write your story. The world needs to hear it, and what good came out of it. Bless others, and you will be blessed even more. ❤️🤗

@EpluribusUnum Yes, it does, and I'm sorry for your hurts. It helps to be able to voice it, and be validated, rather than keep it in, subconsciously. This is the reason I posted this particular subject. We all deserve our voice to be heard, without criticism.

@LithiumDrop I'm not sure I understand what that means to you.

@ButterRobot That was not about you. It was about her preferences. You were enough. She just had different preferences than you. In that case, why be with someone who doesn't emotionally connect with you? I wouldnt like that. She did you a favor. There's someone out there waiting for you to find them, that will love and appreciate you. You deserve that much and more.