How do you deal with someone you dislike who likes you?

Notice that this is posted under the 'friends and acquaintances' category.

Some people you just aren't comfortable with. Some people can be too much for you and some people you just dislike. Plain and simple. But sometimes there are cases when they can't take the hint.

I didn't want to hurt their feelings if I can help it so I avoided blocking them and settled on ignoring their messages. But some are really persistent and keep messaging me in other social media platforms. They just don't seem to get that I don't want them in my life. I can't talk to them and tell it straight to their faces because I don't think that's appropriate and I try to avoid drama given we have a common circle of peers. But just because we do, does not mean I have to like talking to them.

How do you deal with this type of people? Advice? I'm at the point where dislike is turning to loathe simply because I can't stand them and their disregard for personal space.

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Peppa · 31-35, F

Well I've met people, here for example and they just ignore and stick to it.
You have to be firm in your decision.
Eventually the person will just go away...

If a person asks sometimes it can help to be honest with them. You don't have to be rude just say that we are not the same type of person and it's better were not friends as it will only hurt us both.

They won't like it because the bottom line is they like you and its not mutual...

Don't beat yourself up though. .

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Peppa · 31-35, F

@Casheyane i think we all suffer from that... I consider myself a nice person but I know I've said and thought things that people would question because I think because nice =Saint and easy to manipulate to many. So any if you do anything against that boxed in stereotype your deemed mean etc etc. People are leeches. They spend their time extracting what they can if you let them.
And those with little power if they get don't like you will destroy you. Simply because well who's going to stop them!

Casheyane · F

@Peppa Yeah. The world isn't black and white and people could easily take advantage of others. I'm guessing you experienced it first hand?

Peppa · 31-35, F

@Casheyane precisely, people here think you're weak if you block someone but look at the distress you feel for not doing it

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

I think I am usually this person so I've stopped really talking to people unless they talk to me first.

Just tell them. I wish people would just tell me. Would make it so much less confusing.

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SwampFlower · 31-35, F

Oh! But my point was that not everyone can take the hint so it's just best to be honest. If they are like me, they might even appreciate it.

Casheyane · F

@SwampFlower Can we chat? :)

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

@Casheyane Sure ☺️

trackman11 · 61-69, M

It’s always hard when you don’t wish to hurt their feelings. Even more difficult when you share friends you do wish to remain close to. It sounds like a “needy” individual. If you do block or say something direct be prepared for anger and negative comments behind your back.

Peaches · F

I don't know other than just saying, "sorry, but I don't feel we have that much in common to carry on conversations." I've been on the receiving end of this question.💙😔 It's very hurtful to be ignored and blocked without knowing why. People need to develop better social skills.

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