Neither happy or sad. It was just the reality to maintain my own sanity.

Very freeing for me. I felt like I had removed shackles and a chain around my neck. Could actually sleep in and rest, do what I need to do and then rest, and emotionally rest and sleep well at night. One weekend when it was rainy and cold I couldn’t do any yard work so had to stay inside, went to the library and got a lot of books to read and spend the weekend doing that. I almost felt guilty because it was the most time I had for myself in years.

I felt very free when the divorce was finally final...but I admit, living on my own in another state, I was lonely. I really began to forget all of the reasons for the divorce, and I forgot about his rages and the abusive behavior, and the gaslighting, and I just...missed him. We had been together for 25 years. I sent him emails and told him that I missed him, and he drove to Michigan to see me...and brought me back with him to Massachusetts.

Turns out, it was for revenge. The revenge started on the drive back to Massachusetts with me in my car, and him driving the moving truck.

Turns out, he couldn't afford to pay the bills, and there wasn't an official second bedroom with a closet, which he could rent out, so he began to charge me rent.

Eventually...after another year or so, I moved out again. It was a HUGE mistake trying to get back together with...THAT. I won't forget again. And the feelings I once had are all for our lives in the past, now.

I have moved far beyond the poisonous relationship that our marriage became, now, and I am VERY happy alone.

I shaved my head, because I wanted a total restart.

I knew it was right but I still had to mourn the loss of dreams and misconceptions and make peace with what felt like a failure. After a time, I was just deliriously happy to not have to look at his face every day. I would literally lie in bed smiling at the ceiling because he wasn’t there.

It was the hardest thing I’ve gone through, i was all the emotions, happy, sad, scared, angry….

I tried for years to save it, just going round in circles, his behaviour would change for a short time and back to his old ways.

I couldn’t wait for it to be over, I joked I’d have a divorce party but when I got the final confirmation i literally cried for 3 days solid.

Probably the whole stress of it all coming out. It was also a relief.

Before I actually filed for divorce I attempted suicide, I found the pictures on the computer on Thanksgiving day and made my attempt the next day. Ended up in a hospital for 5 days, felt like a failure for some time after, I assumed that I had somehow failed my wife causing her to cheat on me. My doctor convinced me to file for divorce (I wasn't going to initially) unless she agreed to counseling which she refused. That was 15 years ago, and even though I have since remarried I still feel like a failure.

Im going through it now and its so hard.

I am not sure but my mom has had 5 husbands already and she was very happy with every divorce. 🤣

Relieved. The financial loss and alimony bill was huge, but you can’t put a price on freedom.

I’ve never been happier.

So far not got divorced yet.

was never divorced but i was engaged long term and that ended very badly.
Honestly never really felt anything. Didn't know how to feel. Kinda numb to it at first.
There was days she would go out and i would get dark thoughts every so often like if she got in a horrific accident on the way home and didnt survive it and well, that was probably the happiest few moments of my time with her at the end of it.
We only stayed together as long as we did because we had a child together and despite all the bullshit she put me through for years after we ended our relationship, i am honestly thankful she had the balls to initiate the break up cause i would have stuck in it for good while being utterly miserable because i put my son first always

It was a mutual decision based on what was best for each of our lives moving forward. As we got older we veered off with our interests and thought it was better to be true to ourselves. We still talk. No animosity. Don't think either of us were ever lonely or unhappy with the decision.
There's a "have to" component to marriage for a lot of people. "Wanting to" is what makes it work. What I learned is that I need to live alone. I had an opportunity to move to a sweet setup, my partner followed me about six months after and bought a house about 200 yards away. She wants to live alone too. It's perfect. We're super happy. We're real partners and will be together for the duration. Might not work for everyone but it works for us. Different paths up the mountain. But yeah. "Want to" vs. "Have to." That's what it's about.

Never divorced, but started the process once. I was out of the house for a week, went back to discuss with my wife how we would proceed. I felt like a huge part of me was dying. We made it work for another 29 years till cancer took her. Not perfect by a longshot. I'm glad we did.

Kind of sad leading up to it but once it was all said and done, I felt this sense of freedom that I never have before.

Like woke up one morning soon after and it was like that day was made JUST for me. :D

Save it? Our marriage had "run it's course". We both just gave up. Yeah there was the normal fighting leading up to divorce but to this day we have no hard feelings.

He refused and threatened to take everything and other nightmarish things.
I've imagined for years I'd feel sad but free and relieved.

Relief but getting the 'financial settlement'* sorted was much better even though I got my ass kicked.

* Equal division of resources.
It most certainly was not equal and I had provided about 80% of them.

Like a GIGANTIC ball and chain had been cut off my ankle.

It started out very amicable, but quickly went downhill as her unreasonable demands increased.

[b]Hint:[/b] Ladies, talk to your lawyer, not your cube-mate at work. She doesn't know JACK about the law and her divorce may have had extremely different circumstances.

Woo hoo, went out played golf

I think people just grow apart after a long period of time. Some are t as honest up front either because they are looking just to get married then the true colors start to show which can cause problems

Relieved

It was a relief.

Are you hurting? You still love her? That can be tough.

Relieved but missed my kids.

I don't know, I got divorce by mail order

Freeing

kinda lost..

Like I got paroled.

I was sad.
NEVER once thought it was a mistake.

Which time?

relief 🤔 i was in deep depression and my partner never loved me anyways