What is a thought that can change your life?

When I Was 6 years old I remember having a distinct thought one Day. That if i were just kind to others or peers, that maybe they would a accept me. I lived in a house of severe chaos and abuse. That thought made me into a people pleaser the rest of my childhood years and up to now. It was a survival mechanism I know now. But if my entire life changed with one thought...i wonder what new thought could help heal me from the trauma I lived for So long. Pleasing others before yourself (and not believing you SHOULD be happy anyway ) leads to low self confidence and burnout. Any Thoughts that might be Something of truth that could allo w one to feel worth going forward?

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DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

You were conditioned to behave in this manner bc subconsciously you feel as if that was the only way to feel acceptance in your chaotic abusive household.

Unfortunately, this transgressed into your adulthood because it's all you know. We associate familiarity with safety. Remove yourself from this conditioning and mindset.

This is why I have a cleaning obsession because it was the only time anyone was nice to me growing up.