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I need advice

Some how i still tolerate my toxic narcissistic mother from distance , but my sister who has been always negative i haven't spoke to her in ten years, my mother keeps sending me her pictures and stuff she has achieved, i can fully confirm this is not coming from jealousy perspective but rather it makes me wonder... why my mother refuses to respect my boundaries. It also makes me wonder if she is sharing my pictures and stories with her???
I never asked, but it just irritates me , makes me wonder am i a bad person? She asked me to make amends with her a while back and i said No thanks respectfully,
Because people never change , either you whole handedly accept them or leave it as is, i really hate drama and confrontations and my life has been very peaceful ever since i cut off my toxic siblings, in a way it makes me lose respect for my mother.. should i tell her to stop sharing people i don't talk to lives or stories with me, i am just in fear that she will see it as jealousy or accuse me of being rude 馃槶馃槶馃槶
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You鈥檙e not a bad person. Guess it鈥檚 just that a parent always hopes that their children will have good relationships with each other.
RadiantRose31-35, F
@OlderSometimesWiser Thanks for responding 馃檹 what is the best way to handle this situation? I found peace the reason I still talk to my mother is because she gave birth to me. My siblings and I are equal so i don't have a need to feel to keep the connection going, btw sorry to impose just i need advice plz
@RadiantRose Do you feel that she would respect your wishes if you asked her to stop sending you your sister鈥檚 stuff and stop sharing your stuff with her?
RadiantRose31-35, F
@OlderSometimesWiser She has always been harsh so my inner child fears her judgment, i just ignore what she sends , mostly i even repond positively and say something nice when she share's but tonight my conclusion is to never share anything about myself with her other than casual hello's because I don't want her to share my personal photos or achievements to people who are not in my life , in the meantime i can not afford therapy so i came on this site and it really helps alot, the feed back helps me heal
@RadiantRose I鈥檓 glad you find the site helpful. There really are some great people here.

Kinda sounds like you have a plan in place. Bottom line is doing what鈥檚 best for you and helps you heal. 馃檪
RadiantRose31-35, F
@OlderSometimesWiser Thanks 馃槉 i most definitely will