Do women in "abusive relationships" have themselves to blame?

After running a refuge for 7yrs my answer is no person neither woman/man deserves physical abuse. In some cases women can reach a point where they get a burst of courage to stand up to it to their own detriment because they’re often past believing they’re going to survive it. Let’s not forget there are plenty of good men/women that when they feel they are getting to a point of losing control they can take themselves away from the situation. The fear felt when faced with your abuser is incomprehensible, they convince you of the lengths they will go to if you try to leave and you believe it and in many cases it’s true.