Do women in "abusive relationships" have themselves to blame?

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i mean thats like being in the same room with a shooter and u just dont leave, its like u asking for it

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DallasCowboysFan · 61-69, M

I think that sometimes abused women accept their condition because they have been abused so long, they think it is normal.

Whenever you treat them nice, with respect, they push you away because they think you are too good for them or that they don't deserve you.

I dated a woman that had been raped twice and she blamed herself for them, because 'she should have known better'.

And when she was married to her second husband (she had been married 3X when I met her) he beat her often. She did not leave him until he beat her so bad she laid unconscious on the floor for 12 hours. Her husband and her father in law, walked over her when she was lying on the floor. When she woke up she grabbed her 2 kids and left the state.

It was hard to rationalize things with her regarding domestic abuse.

And she was a nurse, so you would have thought she had less tolerance for this.

But you can't change anyone unless they want to change.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@DallasCowboysFan You point out another important issue. I was once told by someone experienced in such matters, that there is no such thing as a sick/well partnership involving domestic violence.

Living in such a situation changes the victim. They make insane concessions to the abuser. They live ‘crazy’ and have to psychologically cope somehow.

And as you and others have noted, “they will never be the same.”